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I do think that the abuse had a lot to do with her not realizing it was wrong I think she was looking for anyone to love her and she didn't care who it was as long as they showed her attention because of the abuse it probably little by little made her for like she was nothing and didn't deserve to be loved and she wanted to prove that she did deserve love just like everyone else. It was just unfortunate that the person that showed her attention and love was a married man and it was a false sense of love but it didn't matter to her because someone was showing her love instead of hate and she believed that she truly deserved that feeling but didn't realize that she was putting a marriage in jeopardy in the process.
As long as she realized that it was wrong eventually and corrected that mistake and stopped seeing the marriage guy, she finally realized that it was a situation she shouldn't be in not to mention that it was a friends husband that is always off limits. If she didn't get counseling for her abuse then she may repeat the same behavior. When someone is abused for that long there is no way they can correct it on their own because of the abuse they feel like nothing and were probably told they weren't nothing and their self esteem was probably damaged. That is what the abuser wants them to feel like that is why they abuse besides the fact that they themselves may have been abused when younger and just carried on the abuse and if they do not get help they will only carry it on and on and on.
Talk to the friend and ask her to get help with this issue so that she doesn't make this mistake again. She has to realize that it was not her fault that she was abused it's the abusers fault and that she is worth having love and affection shown to her just not by a married man by someone that can give all of himself to her and not just part of himself because he is sharing the affection with someone else.