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Im 42- he is 37.
We met online (a dating website).We spoke on the phone for about two weeks (many long long conversations) before deciding to meet about two weeks later. It was an intense attraction from the start- physical and emotional. Since then,we see each other every week, mostly weekends when he does not have his girls, but sometimes long weekends (given the distance - about 2 hours by car).
We have been intimate, recently. We both wanted to wait at least a month before any kind of intimacy. He did have an intimate relationship with someone since his wife and he separated (a friend with benefits type situation). So I am not the first person he has been with since the demise of his relationship.
His children are 9 and 4. I have met them twice, but he and I do not touch or display any affection when in their presence- they consider me to be dad's friend and I am very careful and respectful of their relationship with their dad. We have gone to a restaurant together and another time, went to a waterpark with other adults and children their age.
He was indeed expecting 50% custody of them (a large part of the battle) and is crushed that he will likely only get off weekends and one day a week with them (the oldest is not his natural daughter but he has raised her for 8 of her 9 years). He is often very depressed about the fact that he no longer has them in his life every day and I can only relate the recent loss of my father to his own loss- we have both cried on the phone together about these losses.