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We have been married for six years, together for eight years. I knew he had always looked at porn online, but within the last year I have noticed sites like "ashley madison" and "sugardaddyforme" on the history on our computer. I noticed he had yahoo messenger on his laptop which he does not use for email, his email is hotmail. So I made up an account for myself serving as someone else, found him in chat and proceeded to see what it was he "chatted" about. Which he always told me it was innocent coversation when he was bored at work. Without him knowing it was me we talked very dirty back and forth and even made a "meeting place" for if we ever met up, because my character i made was only 200miles away. I then asked if he were married he replied yes to me and i guess i asked to many wife questions. As he got home he said he knew it was me all along, but I don't believe that he did. He has never cheated on me that I know of. He is a very passionate man and has loved me well, but I get annoyed with the chatting and the porn sites. I don't like either the dirty talk to another woman or the exchanging of pictures. I'm not sure how often the chatting occurs, but I know the porn is atleast three to five times a week. We have a good sex life, three times a week or more, but we have a three year old so he doesn't understand the "im tired" sometimes as I work as a full time cosmetologist also. We hardly fight, but when we do it's because of this issue. We are both 26 high school sweethearts. I cheated way before we were married back in high school with a bf i dated for 3 years. So I don't know if I'm parannoyed he too will someday "pay me back"....so yes I check up from time to time on him, but I always find these things. And ofcourse he throws in my face that I am checking on him. Hope this helps, please help!!