Sorry I could not answer sooner. I have answered your question on the other open question.
Let me know how she reacts to the letter. Try putting it somewhere she will see it, so it will be a surprise. If you have already given it to her, that is fine too. I wish you the best! Please leave me feedback when you get the chance. =)
It is good to hear back from you. These sort of changes take a great deal of time and effort. You have to endure lots of frustration. Not having sex only adds to your tension level. Make sure your wife knows that you love her regardless of her job situation. You should set up a date night this week and take her out to dinner at some place she likes to eat. Don't let her argue with you...just tell her that you have made plans and she will just have to come along for the ride. After dinner you can take her home and give her a nice long full body massage. Tell her that you know she has been really worried and upset and that you want to be there for her. She should appreciate this gesture on your part. You can't allow her mood to throw you off track, although I know that is easier said than done. You are on a long up hill journey my friend. I know this is not going to be easy. Make sure you do not lose sight of the end goal....winning your wife back. Ignore her disrespectful attitude and behavior for the meantime. Try to overwhelm her with loving gestures. Bring her flowers this evening. Tell her that she has always brought beauty into your life and give her a kiss. This is going to be a one day at a time effort. It sounds like you are doing the best you can though. I'm glad you have been working to save your marriage...it takes courage and honor. Good for you! Talk to you soon.
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