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-What are your ages?
-How long did you date?
-How long ago did you break up?
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It first is very important that you are honest with your current girlfriend about your feelings for the ex girlfriend because it isn't fair to her if she doesn't have your full attention in the relationship and in order to even consider having a chance with the ex having a girlfriend does not help matters. Maybe you should be by yourself for a while and working on the feelings you have for the ex so that you can sort out if they are true feelings or just missing something that was in your life for 2 years. It is also important for you to tell your ex the feelings you are having for her that is the only way you will know if you even have a chance with her, she won't know how you feel unless you express them to her but be ready for possibly being turned down if she is with someone else it's a chance you have to be willing to take.
She may be feeling the same way that you are but because you didn't stay in contact with her over the break up period she may have taken that as meaning you don't want anything to do with her, you have to tell her that you needed that time to get over her but you just never could get over what you had together. Tell her that you have been thinking a lot about the relationship and what went wrong and you felt that you could have done things differently and you want the opportunity to show her that you are a different person and you want to show her through your actions and not just words.
You do have to consider that she has a boyfriend and may have moved on and just wants to be friends with you now are you willing to accept that from her just being her friend? We never know what the past brings but for now she may be content with who she is with now and having her in your in any way is much better than not having her in your life at all, these are questions you have to consider in making your decision of whether to tell her or not, but I think you should be honest with both you current girlfriend and your ex about your feelings or else you will only be living a lie and it won't make you happy.
All you can do is tell her how you feel about her and that you want her back the rest is up to her if she wants to leave her unhappy relationship and give you another chance but since she regrets even dating this guy something tells me that he won't be in the picture for very long so why wait for another guy to step in? The fact that she still talks to you and confided in you like that shows that she has a lot of respect for you and cares enough to tell you how she is feeling about things. Don't lost this opportunity to win her back. It's important that you do this so that you aren't living with regrets, wouldn't you rather know if you had a chance or not than to wonder if you ever had a chance because you didn't tell her how you felt? You really have nothing to lose right now. Just be honest about your feelings she will appreciate your honesty and the fact you are not afraid to tell her how you feel. Ask her to lunch or dinner sometime and make that your opportunity to tell her exactly how you feel about her and what you want to happen in the future with the two of you and then tell her you are going to give her some time to think about it and your not going to ask for an answer now this will show her you're patient enough for her to be sure of what she wants and tell her you only want her to be happy.