HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on Just Answer. By the way, it would help me to know:
-What are your ages?
-Do you have a problem with drinking?
-Do you want to save the marriage?-Do you think she is serious or just mad right now?Thank you again for trusting me with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that I can finish answering your question.
I think you wife may have felt like you chose beer and drinking over her and that you weren't considering that she is a recovering alcoholic which means if she were to even kiss you with alcohol on your breath that could send her back to drinking and your wife knows that it doesn't take much to send her back to that bad habit and she wanted you to understand this and want to stop drinking. It was almost like she was giving you an ultimatum and decide that your marriage was more important and she felt let down when she found out that you started drinking again. I think you should definitely make plans to go and win her back if you wait and don't go and show her that you want this marriage to work then you may lose her for good and never get her back show her that she is important to you and that you can do without drinking for the sake of saving your marriage.
She is angry right now and wants to hurt you as much as she feels you hurt her if she said all of those positive things and changed her minds so quickly means that she may have made a hasty decision based on that hurt. You need to go back home and face your martial issues first hand and not long distance. Buy her a gift that shows that you want to try and you love her more than anything and on the card say just that. Tell her if she wants you to get help you will you have to say and do whatever it takes to get her back show her that you are still her rock and you appreciate her more than anything (even beer) If she sees that you are attempting to make things right then she may in turn try harder too and not make any hasty decisions.
Maybe try going to a meeting with her if she still goes if she doesn't then maybe try and find a meeting on your own. Try to consider the fact that she is recovering and even the smell of alcohol can send her back to it and that is something she clearly doesn't want to do and this is why she left it might seem petty to you but to her it's a big deal. You have a fighting chance it's just up to you how far you are willing to fight to save the marriage.
No I think she is afraid that if she does let you back in you will only turn around and do the same thing all over again. She may not be seeing someone but she may think that you are not coming back and it's just talk show her that it isn't just talk and try helping with household chores and laundry. Marriage is about compromise and that may be what you have to do to win her back. Are you willing to do whatever it takes? She may change her mind once you are there in person, you have to find a way to break down the wall she has put up. Suggest trying marriage counseling before she gives up on the marriage this maybe your only choice right now to have a fighting chance and maybe you could also find out why she has put up this wall over what you think are petty things but don't make them seem petty to her.