I am a psychologist and would be happy to help you with your question. First, it would help me if you would answer these questions so that I can provide you with a better response.
What are your ages?
How long have you been dating your boyfriend?
Have either of you ever been married?
Are you satisfied with other aspects of your relationship?
Have you ever tried to share your feelings about this with him?
Please get back to me with this information and I will answer your question.
It sounds like your reaction is perfectly natural given what you have told me. I imagine that it makes you feel very insecure and unloved at times. Regardless of what he says to you, his actions leave a lasting impact on your personal sense of worth. Women have a natural desire to be loved and esteemed by their men. When your boyfriend discusses this other woman, it leaves you feeling "less than" her. It sounds like he has more feelings for this woman than he is willing to share with you. If this relationship has caused problems in his past marriage, I would suggest that you seriously consider the impact this will have on you. When you confront him he seems to become very defensive and accusatory. Moreover, this other woman's statements about her relationship with your boyfriend seem very inappropriate. I would not take this situation lightly but I would also not become paranoid. You need to ask yourself a question.....AM I WILLING TO HEAR ABOUT THIS WOMAN AND BE FRIENDS WITH THIS WOMAN FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE? I personally get the feeling that you are not ok with this situation. Don't let your infatuation with this man cloud your good judgment. As you probably know, it can be difficult to confront reality when you really enjoy spending time with this man. You might want to sit down and bring up this subject with your boyfriend to see what he says. Tell him that you cannot handle hearing so much about this woman and tell him how this makes you feel. He needs to understand the impact this is having on you. If you allow this to continue, he will be confused if you bring it up in the future. You must address his behavior soon. He is allowed to have friends, but his behavior is making you uncomfortable and for good reason.
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