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HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on Just Answer. By the way, it would help me to know:
-What are your ages?
-How long was she your friend?
-Did what she did hurt you?
-Have you seen her since she cut off all ties?Thank you again for trusting me with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that I can finish answering your question.
If I were I would Thank God that you no longer have to deal with her, I must say I thought that you were going to say she was 20 or something like that but 45 years old is way too old to be immature and treat friends like that sometimes people that are like that end up alone with no one to turn to. I think you should sit down and get your thoughts together as to what you want to say to her and then sit down and write her a long letter this way she can not interrupt you in any way and you will be able to get all you want to say out. Sometimes we can be the best of friends to someone but they are horrible to us and then we wonder why we were friend with that person in the first place.
I really think you should write the letter and then forget about her, she means you no good and doesn't treat the friendship in a give and take way it's more take and take and take. Did you ever hear the saying "One good friend is better than ten fake ones?" She is one of the fake ones, just be glad of the good friendships you have gained and let her stay to herself with no friends. As she gets older instead of maturing she becomes more immature and doesn't like for anyone else to get the attention and no matter what she did she still wasn't the center of attention so she probably got mad and this is why she stopped speaking to you and your friends.
It seems as though she has to self esteem issue and is only justified through other people and not herself. She is a user and if she can't get anything from you she stops being your friend. I would write the letter as a way for closure for you and just enjoy the friend that you do have and who treat you with respect.