thank you for your response. you have a point there. however, i'm wondering if his email asking her to chat w/ him would be his way of telling me that it's part of his once every 2 weeks contact with them. we had set ground rules as to what constitutes excessive contact with them. i'm actually on the fence as to whether i'm ok with this or that he should end all contact altogether.
i've invested some in this relationship when we started living together. we have a year lease on our house and that's the other problem right there since he just started a new job and doesn't have the financial means to get another apartment for himself and pay me half of our current rent. his alternative right now is to make this work between us [and sometimes i wonder if it's just because of the housing situation]. however, even if he was let's just say willing to work things out, can you help me understand his complex personality and how i can help him overcome it?