HiCustomer Thank you for asking your question on Just Answer. By the way, it would help me to know:
-What are your ages?
-How long have you been dating him?
-How long have you been working for him?
-Have you told him that you want more money?-Could you explain your situation a little more?Thank you again for trusting me with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that I can finish answering your question.
As far as him being insecure you can not help him with that that is something he has to work on himself no one can make us happy if we are not happy within. As far as the money situation have you ever thought about finding another job or are you in business with each other so to speak? If you have been together for 17 years and still he doesn't pay you more money it's more than likely things will not change and it seems he may be set in his way and doesn't want to compromise. Maybe if you find another job that pays what you want to get paid and you aren't around each other so much you could get along better. You seem like you feel unaapreciated and if this is the case I think it's in your best interested to tell him this and tell him that you feel he is only using you for hard labor without the pay.
It's easier to take loved ones for granted because they know that their loved one loves them and doesn't want to hurt them and would take so more than a stranger hired off the street would take, he knows you will not quit because you live together and if he doesn't make money thn your rent won't get paid since you live together. Maybe you could draw up an written agreement asking for more money and see if he will agree to it, if that doesn't work thenmaybe you should think long and hard about finding your own income without having to depend on him to make or break you, this way you will be independ and at the same time contribute to the household income.
He just doens't seem to want to compromise with you in any way and he figures you put up with it for 17 years why change things now. If you have anything to add or still need help click reply.
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