Hi Piggie, nice to see you again, thank you for requesting me.
Well, I know you won't have a fit or a heart attack, you have to remember to not listen/worry when he says all those things. Let him know you are a big girl and can make your own decisions. If he's never done anything bad to you, then ask him how he's no good for you. Do you feel that way?
Oh Piggie, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling this way. The problem is, he has to make sense out of his life. In order to feel happy with life, he has to feel happy with himself, and in order for him to feel happy with himself, he has to feel like he's accomplishing something and making something out of himself.....for him, his son, even you. He's trying to push you away because he feels like he has nothing to offer you. Like I told you last time we talked that you have to be patient and supportive of him. You have to stay positive, and be happy on your end. This is something he has to work on himself, and figure out what his direction is, not just for himself but for his son, and even you.
Its not easy. I personally dont agree with going into the service as we are at war right now and there's no telling if he will have control over where he will be, he probably won't. If he has heart problems it is doubtful that they will accept him. There are many people who have gotten a lot out of the military, money, status, travelling, but it's really something he has to think about before making a decision. As I told you before, I do think he cares about you, and he's trying not to hurt you.
I think that he is making decisions to try and make a better life for himself, even if it means doing something he doesn't really want to do. For some reason he doesn't think you can handle it, maybe its something your are saying or doing thats making him think this, so you have to decide if you want to be calm and upbeat abut things or make him think you can't handle it. I know you don't want him to go to the military, but he's his own man and has to make the decision of what he feels is best. Obviously he has some sort of attachment to you, he calls you, he cares what you think, he stays in touch with you, right?
It sounds like he cares for you and that he worries about you. Being supportive is important and acknowledging his wants and needs, but also expressing yours. He's making a hard decision, as you said he doesn't want to join the service, so this is something he is doing because he feel he has to, this probably upsets him and can even make him angry. He's pushing you away because he doesnt want to hurt you, or maybe even feel obligated to you right now.