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I think you just let it happen naturally but explain your feelings to him so that he knows how you feel. Tell him you have always liked him and that it hurt you when he just starting seeing Erica and that you step aside because you didn't think you should have compete for anyone's emotions. If you don't tell him everything and then you start dating again he may think that if he finds another female he will do the same thing he did with Erica just make sure that he is what you want he doesn't seem like he wants to settle down right now but that could change and it's not impossible. If you wait too long you may miss out again so I say let your feelings be known, you don't want to be on the outside looking in again like with Erica. He may be waiting for you to say the word and he may feel like the way he treated you before he may not think he doesn't deserves a second and chance and that friends is better than not having you in his life period.
It's obvious that he could ask one of his guy pals to come over and play and the fact that he keeps asking you means something. You just have to make sure that if that time comes where the two of you start dating that you are the only person he is dating unless you are willing to allow him to play the field in your relationship, he has to know you want the the only one. If you need more help click reply.
If you guys are good friends then you should bring it up in an email or while you are playing video games. Just tell him how you feel and tell him your not trying to make his make a decision now and that you just want him to give it some thought. This way he will know that you aren't pushing the issues just basically putting it out there for a possibility of the two of you maybe trying again. Tell him if he isn't ready for that yet that is fine you would rather be friends than nothing at all. If he isn't ready to date again you will have your answer for the time being and then you will have to put the idea in the back of your head until he is ready, are you willing to do that? You are both young yet you have time even though we're are not promised tomorrow. Maybe give it another week and feel things out and then think about what you are going to do.
It depends on how long ago you had asked him if it were months ago then yes I would bring it up again if it were just recently then no I would a little long to approach this again you don't want to sound pushy. I take what he said as meaning he is open for that to happen but he wants to it be a natural thing. You're not bothering, I'm happy to help you.
Some of the best relationships have come from the couple being friends first and really getting to know each other so I would say keep going the way you are and he will she that you are a great person and the right person for him. It sounds like the two of you very caring for each other and this is a good thing, just let it take it's course and hopefully things will fall into place on their own and if it were meant to be it will be if not remain friends and have fun.