What have your therapists had to say about it?
Were you this way as a child? or do you remember when it started?
This behavior became more frequent when I started school. Recently I was diognosed with ADD. My father was relentless ever since I could remember about me doing work around the house for him. It was always the wrong way and never good enough. He would never thank me or appreciate any thing I did do for him. Oh, he was a hi functioning alcoholic, and a very mean one at that.
My therapist says I need to erase over my old tapes. I feel so defeated before I start something that I wind up quitting everything before I complete it. My therapist feels my father is still getting in the way, (no kidding, I already know that).
For starters, you shouldn't take ownership of what you feel is wrong. For example, calling yourself 'Customer'. The first step in changing is knowing that you want to change and taking steps to change it. Yes, it's very likely that your fathers past behavior still controls you. Do you have contact with your father now?
Was there any suggestion of medication to deal with the ADD?
Medications, lexapro, aderall.
Still have contact with Father although I now live 1000 miles away and have for past 25 years. I have forgiven my father, mentaly he can not help himself. He stills thinks he did a good job raising his children. I have 2 sisters, 1 older, 1younger. I got the worst.
One of the first things you want to do is to talk to your doctor and let him know that you're still experiencing these problems. It may be an issue of adjusting your medication. You can set up small goals for yourself, and try completing those goals. I suspect that you are not used to the feeling of accomplishment, and that you may feel the same way people feel who procrastinate.
Look over the following websites regarding procrastination, particularly this one. See if you feel comfortable following the advise she gives about getting more organized, writing down important tasks and setting up your own deadlines.
I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more
Thanks Ms Chase, it wasn't even easy for me to even answer this task. I really need help. I will try and go forward, it will be hard to really commit to improving this situation for me. I'm at the point of just praying but that in itself almost turns over the task of someone else's job and not mine. I'm still feeling helpless with this problem.
Thank you. I can't expect you to diagnose, treat, and relieve me of a life of hell for $15.00. Thank you!
"Will try Will"