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How long have you been with him?
What are your ages?
What is your question?
How did you wind up finding out?
Do you think he gave it to you? why or why not?
Thank you for that additional info. It's hard to say what the best thing to do at this point is. You've slept with him, so there is a good chance you could have already given it to him, if you're positive he didn't give it to you. The fact is, there's no proven way to say who gave it to who first, or positively where you got it from. Right now its a time bomb, you either deal with it now by just being honest about your test results, if he truly loves you, he may be angry at first but he'll try and work it out. There's no way anyone can tell you better than you, how exactly he will react. If you don't tell him, eventually he will wind up getting symptoms and you'll be back at square one. The fact is, whether you stay with him or whether you meet someone else, you're going to have to start letting people know that you have it, since that is the responsible thing to do, or you cannot have unprotected sex. The problem is, you've already been having unprotected sex with this guy, so he's going to think its weird if you start demanding condoms. You could always say that you don't want to get pregnant. Either way, you've got to tell him, or protect him. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more
What should you do about what? I'm sorry, I wasn't sure what you were asking?
Gina, of course you can have a baby. Please read this, it explains your options. It's not the end of the world, but it is hard. The main thing is you don't want to give it to every partner you have and there are ways you can prevent passing it on, by using protection. Please keep in mind that you don't have to have lesions to give herpes to someone, you are continually shedding the virus, even when you have no symptoms or lesions. Check out these links, here, here and here for more info. Read and read as much as you can to learn as much about it as you can. The more familiar you are with it, the better you will feel. Let me know if you want to talk more.