It seems like we are having a little difficulty with the chat feature. I'm going to ask you a few questions
What are some of the things you've been arguing about?
Where did you meet?
Have you considered changing brith control?
Has the difficulty with sex just started happening? or has it been that way all along or since you took the pill?
Many times sexual issues or being taken advantage of can affect our sex drive. Sometimes it's not enough to think that time will heal these wounds, it may be good for you to look into getting counseling or therapy to work through these issues. If not, it can lead to problems not only within the relationship, but your sexual life as well. You'll want to speak to your doctor, he may be able to refer you to someone.....also, you will want to tell him about the problems you are having on the pill. If it's hurting when you have sex, it is most likely due to not enough lubrication, (along with your emotional state) and you will want to try a water based lubricant, especially if you are using condoms.
I know that sex is important, but arguing about it may make things worse. Intimacy doesn't always need to include penetration. If your guy is willing to try holding and cuddling without pressuring for sex, maybe full body massages, and being more romantic, then maybe you can overcome some of your stressful feelings. Do you feel that e's pushy about sex, or gets angry with you about sex? If so, that's only adding to your stress..you have to let him know that arguing about it, only makes it worse.
What do you think about what I've said so far? Let me know if you want to talk more