Where did you meet?
What are your ages?
Why do you think its you specific just because he said it was?
Has he ever gone to therapy? Is he willing to go to therapy?
Thank you for that additional info. Without talking to him, it would be impossible for me to say why he feels this way. It could be so many different reasons, a short list would be
there could be other reasons but as I said without knowing much more about him and his past I can't be sure
The fact is, whatever the reason, you have to decide if you can live like this. Ask yourself, what if six months from now, things haven't changed, will you stay with him? What if things don't change in a year, will you stay with him? Do you have enough feelings for him to stick with him through whatever it is he's struggling with?
Two months is not enough time to know someone that well, as you can see, he's not even sure why he's like this (so he says) so how can you be expected to understand. If he's willing to go into therapy or counseling immediately to try and figure this out, I would consider staying with him, but if not, I don't think things will change, and if they do, there's no guarantee it will last.It really depends on him and how willing he is to change what's going on with him.
I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.
The fact is, it was his problem. He's the one who had the issue, not you. You have the choice to hold onto this issue or to let it go. Think about the fact that you will meet many people in your lifetime, some or all of them might have their own particular issues, whether from childhood, past relationships or their own personality, and we have to learn the difference between what we cause and what is just a personal problem with them. When it's a personal problem, as in this case with your ex friend, you can't take it on yourself, as that will only turn and cause problems in your future relationships. Just remember, he had this problem, not you. He had it before he met you and he will continue to have it now that you are apart. Don't carry it with you. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more at anytime.
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