HelloCustomer Thank you for bringing your question to Just Answer.
The biggest problem I'm seeing with this relationship, right off the bat, is a failure to communicate. Even you say you don't want to listen to her anymore. Listening is key in any relationship; as a matter of fact, hardly no relationships last without communication between each partner.
The only advice I can offer, if you really, really love her and don't want to lose her, is to call her. Explain what a fool you've been for not listening when she's tried to talk to you, and that you're sorry. Don't tell you you'll never do it again, because that is what you call an empty promise. Instead, tell you that, if she'll give you one more chance, that you promise to work on your communication skills, even seeking the advice of a counselor if necessary. Tell her that you love her deeply and that you do not want to lose her, and that you'll do whatever it takes to save the relationship.
If she invites you over, don't even think about sex. The only thing that should be on your mind is saving the relationship, and sex doesn't save relationships. Take a dozen roses and go there with the mindset of talking out the relationship. Listen to everything she has to say, and don't get into a fight. Keep your voice down and don't get argumentative. And hopefully, you will be able to save the relationship. Best of luck to you.
If you need additional help, just click reply. Have a good week.
If you call her more than she's asking you to, then all you are doing is showing her that you're still not 'hearing' her. If she has made up her mind that it's over, then there really isn't anything you can do, but if there's even a hope that things might work, you need to give her some space. Is she starts to realize she doesn't need you or miss you, then you will know that she doesn't really care about you. I think she does care, but may just need some time.
I can only say again that you have to give her space. Also you have to at least entertain the thought that there might be another guy involved, it would explian a lot of her behavior. The only way you can really know what she is thinking or feeling (or what ANYONE in life is thinking or feeling) is if they tell you...thats's it. You can only hope that they will be honest with you. I'm here if you want to talk more.
ps. please remember to click the green accept button if I have helped, so that I will get credit for my work with you.
It's no problem, and some conversations go on for day, weeks and sometimes even months. Conversations of that type will include multiple accepts to compensate for the work, which is completely up to the customer. I'm always around if you want to talk.
Even, getting her to 'miss' you is tricky, and when you start playing game, you have to include the possibility that the games will backfire. With that being said, you can completely drop out of the picture for a week, have it get back to her that some other girl likes you, or act really nonchalant when you speak to her. When people feel like they are losing something, they usually grasp onto it tighter (as you have plainly seen for yourself)....the problem with that, is if she's so fed up and through with what shes gone through with you, she may let go completely. This is good and bad, it's good because you will know once and for all how she truly feels....but it's bad because it was not your intended outcome. I hope you understand what I'm saying, but if not let me know and we can talk more.