I'm actually surprised that she accepted your dinner invitation, as it would seem a little unprofessional to go to a patients house for dinner, but perhaps after dealing with her for so long she feels comfortable enough to do this. It's not abnormal for someone who has gone through as much as you have, and to have put so much trust in your doctor, to develop feelings for them, they are after all in many ways responsible for our health and wellness. We look at them much the way we look at priests, or lawyers, they have the inside line on how to make it right and they hold so much power in their hands, so it's natural to look up to them.
I would hold off on expressing your feelings just yet. Let her come to dinner and you can spend some quality time with her as a friend. It would not only be unethical, but illegal for the two of you to become involved romantically, but if that's the way that this is going, then you would have to find out the time frame within which you would have to dismiss her as your doctor before you could become involved.
It's not 'wrong' to feel any particular way about someone, it's only wrong if it hurts other people, so it's important to know the right thing to do under any circumstance.
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Even though she is married to a man, she may still have feelings. It doesn't necessarily mean that she should or will act on them. The fact is, she has already accepted your invitation to dinner. So in some way she already looks upon you in some sort of social sense, or she would not have accepted your invitation. Once she comes to your house for dinner, just be casual, and talk like you would talk to any friend. I believe that she is already willing to be social and stay in touch with you, but once you have dinner, you will see that.
Let me know if you want to talk more
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Somehow I overlooked your recent response. How did your gynae visit go?
Sometimes a crush can be like that, or if we admire someone so much. As for the guidelines, thats what I had mentioned in my original answer with you. There are certain rules that prevent medical personal from becoming involved with their patients, as it's not unusual for people to become overly attached to them. I wouldn't suggest telling her, and I do think that if you feel like its becoming an obsessive distraction that you may want to talk to a counselor or therapist about it. As I said before, it's not unusual in the sense that people see them as very powerful figures, we pretty much put our lives and health in their hands. I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.
Well, as long as you make it clear from the outset that you are not interested in her 'like that'. You can let her know that you won't kiss any girls in front of her (smile). If she is a true friend, she will understand. Even if it does bother her a bit, she will understand that you're not hitting on her. Keep in mind that it's not necessary to tell her if you don't want to.
Yes, I did read that. I think it's great that if you are interested in girls your boyfriend would be supportive of that and willing to explore that with/for you, instead of being jealous or dismissive of it. As long as whatever you do is what you want to do, and doesn't hurt anyone, you should feel free to explore your sexuality any way you like.