Hello Jerry and Nelly 4ever:
I am going to help you by suggesting that you first enter into therapy with a therapist that specializes in sexual dysfunction. I believe that this is an alternative that will help you identify the psychological reasons that you are unable to maintain and erection.
Upon learning this, your therapist will bring Nelly into the sessions also. The therapist will discuss techniques that will help both of you to relax and enjoy the full pleasure of sexual intimacy with one another.
I want to let you know that you are not alone, so please don't panic. I am a psychologist and see couples for this same thing frequently. One thing we have noted in our studies is that this is often common to persons that practice a religious belief faithfully. They have mentally prepared and prevented themselves from engaging in "fornication" that when they are married performance can be impaired do to emotional stress that has gained momentum while they have respected abstinence.
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