How long were you together?
How old are the two of you?
Will she talk to you now?
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If you would like to chat simply send me a note and we can set up a time to do so...If you are now more comfortable addressing this very difficult concern in this thread I am more than willing to help you through this means also.
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I believe that you have provided enough information to get me started. The first thing that I would like to do though is to clarify just what your question is. This will prevent the need for you to take 40 laps around the track when you only need ... Oh, ...about 38 or 39...Fair enough to you! LOL
I believe that you are asking whether or not the fact that your girl broke up with you after learning that you were aware of her being anorexic. Is this correct?
Please let me know and we can move forward...If not then redirect me
WTG, you are correct...clarify don't justify...Well as you will see Psychologist definitely no poet!
Yes, your girlfriend broke up with when she realized that you knew she was anorexic...Here is the reason:
The individual that has Anorexia Nervosa (AN) is classified as having an eating disorder...and, in reality they do...on the other hand the eating disorder that is identified, is actually a very serious symptom of a more serious psychological or emotional mental disorder, that was actually triggered prior to the time that they have reached puberty (10 years is the average start time).
The emotional disorder begins when the child is made to feel inferior, unloved and unwanted by their primary care givers. The primary care givers are generally their parents; however, this is not always the case.
Though you don't mention whether or not she is the oldest child or the only child in the family my guess is that she is most likely one of these. The reason that I say this is because these two people share many characteristics by virtue of their birth order: They usually have higher expectations placed on them than their younger siblings...or, believe ti or not they are so praised by their parents that their brain actually begins thinking that they must be perfect, and when their young bodies begin to blossom around the age of 12, they begin to see themselves as one of the ugliest people on the earth...If they must be disciplined for ding something that is inappropriate (all children this age will at one point or another) they begin to reject their own person...
You see this living being has grown to believe that if they are not perfect there is no point in them existing...With this they have a serious need to take control of their own lives once again... While they can't control others, they can have total control of themselves...The end result is a slow and progressive highly potential fatality in the making...To the anorexic...each Pound that is shed makes them one pound prettier, stronger, in control, self saving, etc. and the saddest part is that they believe that this is also how others see them....
When your girlfriend found out that you knew about her eating disorder... Her secret was exposed and this took away her beauty, strength, control, and the hope to continue living was also gone so there was no reason for her to continue trying to save herself...You knew who she was and she couldn't hide behind the mask any longer.
Now, I have a question for you ... maybe 2 or 5!
How tall is she?
What is her current weight?
Why is her friend so sure that she is anorexic: Behavioral signs and indicators, etc.
And how are you 100% positive that her parents are aware of this. I am compelled to ask this as a professional. If I knew you personally, I would be under order to report her to the legal authority for she is creating a threat to the life and well being of herself. I am a mandated reported. This means with and by no choice of my own...No, I do not know you and I am not going to report any one...
But, I would like the information to the questions I have asked so that I can plot them. If her numbers plot out to show that she is currently at high risk, then I am going to challenge, order, encourage...Choose the word that you prefer, you to talk to her parents.
Anorexia nervosa is a very dangerous illness. By the time that the symptoms and indicators are present on the outside, a significant amount of damage has already taken place internally to the life supporting organs our bodies require to live.
Frequently the bodies electrolytes and elements are depleted such as calcium and sodium to such low points due to poor (or should I say none) nutrition, that the individual will experience fibrillation of the heart or a total cardiac arrest, in the blink of an eye.
This is also one of the most difficult psychological disorders to treat and the process involved is very time consuming...
I wish you all the best at during this process, so that you will be able to stay strong for your girlfriend and give her lots of patience. This is only possible if the love that you claim to have for her is real.
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Yes, if you love her and are patient you will be with her again...
The problem is she doesn't want to have anything to do with me, and she claims to have no feelings for me at all and doesn't even want to be friends because she doesn't think i would be able to handle it, being that i still love her.
What you need to consider right now is that it is good to talk with her and to be there for her; but, when she attempts to push you out give her a little room...You have to remember that one of the major problems with people that are anorexic is that this is generated as they began to believe they had no control....
All that she is trying to do is to gain control and she is trying to convince you that she has no feelings for you because she fears that she will lose you...The fear is to intense for her...but if she pushes you out...guess what...she can handle it...because why?...Yes, you have it, she will be in control again!