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Customer Question

DATE: Tue 1-8-2008

 

TO: XXXXX XXXXX or JustAnswer.com 'Relationship' Counselor

ATTN: 'Terri60'

 

 

I hope/(looking forward) in receiving the answers to my questions before ‘Saint' Valentine's Day; Thursday, February 14, 2008.

Sincerely-- thanks.

 

 

About me/myself: "meeting, mingling/flirting, building good rapport and companionship; and achieving to attract peer-aged female(s) for either ‘casual dating' or being ‘friends with benefits' " . . .

 

In e a c h of My Scenarios-

while I am both: "being 'myself' " and "wherever I go, I join the social event or do the social activity for the pleasure/enjoyment I will

gain from the event/activity"; w h a t is both the ‘when-to-do' and the ‘how-to-do' for applying

Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips? ? ?

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

 

My Scenarios

 

I hope/(looking forward) in receiving the answers to my questions b e f o r e ‘Saint' Valentine's Day; Thursday, February 14, 2008. Sincerely-- thanks.

 

 

About me: "meeting, mingling/flirting, building good rapport and companionship; and achieving to attract peer-aged female(s) for either ‘casual dating' or being ‘friends with benefits' " . . .

 

In e a c h of My Scenarios-

while I am both: "being 'myself' " and "wherever I go, I join the social event or do the social activity for the pleasure/enjoyment I will

gain from the event/activity"; w h a t is both the ‘when-to-do' and the ‘how-to-do' for applying

Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips? ? ?

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

 

My Scenarios

 

Scenario

#

 

 

 

 

 


Scenario (Description with Site/Venue)
The ANSWER of

 

"When do I and How do I?"

 

As I apply Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips in each Scenario.

1A
I attend, at least twice weekly, a group class ("Level #1: Salsa dancing") at a dance studio.


? ? ?

1B
I attend, at least twice monthly, a social dance(whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, or Swing) which is both sponsored by and held at a dance studio.


? ? ?

2
I attend a dance nightclub, only once monthly, to social dance--whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, Swing, Hip-hop, R&B, or Disco/Techno.


? ? ?

3
I attend a "Speed Dating" event; sponsored by:

http://www.8minutdating.com/, http://www.hurrydate.com/, or http://www.pre-dating.com/.


? ? ?

4A
I respond(make initial contact) to a peer-aged woman's Personal Ad/Profile which is posted either on the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 


? ? ?

4B
I meet in-person for the first time a Peer-aged woman, who I briefly became acquainted with, from Personal Ad/Profiles on either the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.match.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 


? ? ?

5A
If I join volunteering/(non-paying) opportunities to do volunteer work and meet the volunteers, the employed personnel and/or the ‘community' person(s) who receive the volunteered work efforts/proceeds.


? ? ?

5B
If I attend church and religious/spiritual either prayers or ‘devotionals'-- etcetera; to meet person(s) especially who are peer-aged, of any race/ethnicity, who attend also do the same. Presume-- Christian/Christianity: whether denominational, orthodox, or both non-denominational and non-orthodox.


? ? ?

Theresa L. Romaker's Idea(Process/Strategy)

 

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The Social Skill/Tip
The Explanation behind the Social Skill/Tip

1
You have to be yourself.




2
Wherever you go, do it for the pleasure you will gain from the activity, not to meet a potential "date".


When you do this you are at ease. Talking to others in this situation is no different than talking to a new co-worker. Their is no relationship between the two of you for you don't yet know each other; and therefore, you have nothing to lose: physically, financially or emotionally.



3
If you see someone that you find attractive, approach them and introduce yourself.
If they are interested in engaging with you they will let you know this in one of two ways:

 

A)
They will either begin speaking with you or;



B)
They will introduce them self to you (Keep in mind that they maybe shy) and if they are shy they may stand their waiting for you to continue the conversation. In this situation, remaining close to allow you the opportunity to continue the conversation will indicate that they are interested. If they aren't they will introduce themselves and leave the area (politely if they are respectful).

 



4
If they engage into a full conversation with you focus on their interests, what they do, and things of this nature.


Light conversation such as this will let you now if you want to get to know this person more. Getting to know an attractive person frequently sends people running in the other direction because as the old saying goes: "You can't judge a book by it's cover."

 

 

 

Terms defined in the "Glossary of Terms" in Neil Strauss's book, The Game.

 

##

 


Term
Definition
Term's Origin

1
Three-second Rule
A guideline stating that a woman should be approached within three seconds of first seeing her. It is intended t prevent the man from thinking about the approach too much and getting nervous, as well as to keep him[the man] from creeping the woman out by staring at her for too long.


Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

2
Model
To observe and imitate the behavior of another person, typically someone who possesses a trait or skill one wishes to acquire.
Origin:

 

Richard Bandler and John Grinder.



3
Time Constraint
To tell a woman or a group of people that it is necessary to leave them soon. The purpose of a time constraint is to lessen a woman's anxiety that a man she has just met will hang around her all night, or that she is expected to have sex with a man upon entering his house.


Origin:

 

'Style'.

4
Group Theory
The idea[or action/attempt] that women are usually accompanied by friends, and to meet her a man must simultaneously win the approval of her friends while actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her.


Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

5
Fluff
To make mundane[‘boring'] small talk, typically between two people who have just met; common subjects include where one lives, what one does for work[‘a living'], and general interests and hobbies.


? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

6
Sub-Communication
An impression, message, or effect created by a person's mannerisms, dress, or general presence; an indirect, nonverbal form of communication generally perceived better by women than men.


Origin:

 

Tyler Durden.



7
Hired Guns
Female employees[women] in the service industry who are generally recruited/[hired employees] for their attractiveness[personality, maybe fame, and especially physical/aesthetical appearance(‘sexual appeal')], such as: bartenders, waitresses, [Telephone, Internet/Online ‘Dating' websites], shot girls, and strippers.


Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

8
Male Pattern Blindness (MPB)
Some men's inability to recognize that a woman is attracted to and interested in him until after she[the woman] leaves and it is too late to act[the man] upon it[this situation].


Origin:

 

'Vincent'.

9
Blur
An occurrence in which a woman stops returning calls, although she was initially interested in the man phoning.


? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

10
Non-‘versation'
A conversation in which one person is not paying attention to what the other person is saying, generally due to lack of interest [and/]or being distracted.


Origin:

 

'Style'.

11
Hook Point
The moment in a ‘pickup'[meeting/mingling action] when a woman (or a group) decides that she enjoys the company of a man who has recently approached her and does not want him to leave.


Origin:

 

'Style'.

12
Number-close
To obtain a correct[in-service] phone number from a woman.
Origin:

 

'Mystery'.



13
Indicator of Interest (IOI)
A sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. These clues[from the woman], generally unintentional and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he speaks, asking[the woman and/or the man] to keep a conversation going, or squeezing his hand when he takes her hand in his.


Origin:

 

'Mystery'.



14
Statement of intent or show of interest (SOI)


A direct comment intended to let a woman know that one[usually the man] is attracted to or impressed with her.
Origin:

 

'Rio'.

15
Elicit Values
To draw out, through conversation, what is important to a person, usually with the intention of reaching a deep inner desire that motivates them.
Origin:

 

Richard Bandler and John Grinder.



16
Triangular Gazing
A technique[usually by a man] used directly before attempting to kiss a woman, in which, while making eye contact, a man takes several short, suggestive glances at her lips.
? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

17
F.M.A.C. (find, meet, attract, close)
A rudimentary, sequential model of ‘pickup'.
Origin:

 

'Mystery'.



18
Flake
An occurrence in which a woman cancels or does not show up to a planned meeting[ a ‘date'].


? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

19
"Let's just be friends"(LJBF)
A statement a woman makes to a man to indicate that she is not sexually or romantically interested[desire] in him. One[a man or a woman] can hear an LJBF speech or get LJBF'ed.


? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

20
Way-below average frustrated chump (WBAFC)
A man who is extremely unsuccessful with woman[never ‘dated', never had a ‘girlfriend', never even had a platonic female friend as a "social dance partner" to go social dancing with at a dance club], usually due to awkwardness, nervousness, and [especially] lack of experience[because the female(s) that this man encounter is/are: fickle, arrogant, or "not sure of herself"].

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

21
Average Frustrated Chump (AFC)
A stereotypical nice guy[man] who has no ‘pickup' skills or understanding of what[how-to, and when in different venues] attracts a woman; a man who tends to engage in supplicative and wimpy patterns of behavior around women he has not yet slept[been] with.


Origin:

 

Ross Jeffries.

 

 

 

 

Other Terms defined

 

##

 


Term Definition

 

Source(s)

http://www.Merriam-Webster.com/dictionary

http://en.wikipedia.org/

 



1
Rapport
1: relation; especially : relation marked by harmony, conformity, accord, or affinity



2
Proactive
1[1pro-] : relating to, caused by, or being interference between previous learning and the recall or performance of later learning <proactive inhibition

of memory>

2[2pro- + reactive] : acting in anticipation of future problems, needs, or changes- pro·ac·tive·ly adverb



3
Confidence
1 a: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances confidence in her ability to succeed>

with brash confidence>

b: faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way confidence in a leader>

2: the quality or state of being certain : certitude confidence of success>



4
Self-esteem
1 : a confidence and satisfaction in oneself : self-respect

2 : self-conceit



5
Emotion
1: aobsolete : disturbance b: excitement

2: a: the affective aspect of consciousness : feeling

b: a state of feeling

c: a conscious mental reaction (as anger or fear) subjectively

experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a

specific object and typically accompanied by physiological

and behavioral changes in the body.

 

Emotion
(Definition from: Wikipedia.org)

 

 

Emotions

 

Acceptance
Affection
Aggression
Ambivalence
Anger
Apathy
Anxiety
Compassion
Depression
Disgust
Doubt
Ecstasy
Empathy
Envy
Embarrassment
Euphoria
Fear
Forgiveness
Frustration
Guilt
Gratitude
Grief
Happiness
Hatred
Hope
Horror
Hostility
Homesickness
Hysteria
Loneliness
Love
Paranoia
Pity
Pleasure
Pride
Rage
Regret
Remorse
Sadness
Shame
Sexiness
Suffering
Surprise
Sympathy

 

v • d • e



6
Chump
Pronunciation:

\'ch?mp\

Function:

noun

Etymology:

perhaps blend of chunk and lump

Date:

1876

: fool dupe



7
‘Pickup Artist'
(Definition from: Wikipedia.org)

 

 

A pickup artist, commonly abbreviated PUA,[1] is a term used to describe a man who is skilled in meeting, attracting, and seducing women. The use of "pickup" in this context, slang for making a casual acquaintance with a stranger in anticipation of sexual relations,[2] dates from at least 1970 and the book How to Pick Up Girls by Eric Weber, and Pick-Up Times, a short-lived 1970s magazine, culminating in the 1987 semi-autobiographical film, The Pick-up Artist, written and directed by James Toback.[3] The term is also associated with the seduction community, a male subculture based on the goal of improved sexual and romantic abilities with women using self-help, an understanding of social psychology and techniques derived from Neuro-linguistic programming. The term received increased attention in 2005 upon the arrival of Neil Strauss' bestselling book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, also in 2007, from the reality television series, The Pick-up Artist, shown on VH1, starring Mystery, a well-known pickup artist.



8A
Player
Function:

noun

Date:

14th century

: one that plays: as a: a person who plays a game b: musician c: actor d: a device that reproduces recorded material (as video images or music) from a usually specified medium player> e: one actively involved especially in a competitive field or process : participant player in politics>


8B
‘Player'
Slang, origin unknown- a ‘pickup artist'.



9A
Game
1 a (1): activity engaged in for diversion or amusement : play (2): the equipment for a game b: often derisive or mocking jesting : fun sport game of a nervous player>

 

2 a: a procedure or strategy for gaining an end : tactic b: an illegal or shady scheme or maneuver : racket

 

3 a (1): a physical or mental competition conducted according to rules with the participants in direct opposition to each other (2): a division of a larger contest (3): the number of points necessary to win (4): points scored in certain card games (as in all fours) by a player whose cards count up the highest (5): the manner of playing in a contest (6): the set of rules governing a game (7): a particular aspect or phase of play in a game or sport game> bplural : organized athletics c (1): a field of gainful activity : line game> (2): any activity undertaken or regarded as a contest involving rivalry, strategy, or struggle game> game of politics>; also : the course or period of such an activity game> (3): area of expertise : specialty 3 game>

 

4 a (1): animals under pursuit or taken in hunting; especially : wild animals hunted for sport or food (2): the flesh of game animals barchaic : pluck c: a target or object especially of ridicule or attack -often used in the phrase fair game

synonyms see fun



9B
‘Game'
The " ‘dating' game " or the competition[just like employment seeking and being hired for employment] in the " ‘dating' game".



10
Sex Appeal
Main Entry:

sex appeal

Function:

noun

Date:

1912

1 : personal appeal or physical attractiveness especially for members of the opposite sex 2 : stimulating attractiveness



11
Metro-sexual
: a usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious(meticulous) grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes - metrosexual adjective



12
Geek
Etymology: probably from English dialect geek, geck fool, from Low German geck, from Middle Low German

Date: 1914

 

1 : a carnival performer often billed as a wild man whose act usually includes biting the head off a live chicken or snake

2 : a person often of an intellectual bent who is disliked

3 : an enthusiast or expert especially in a technological field or activity geek>

- geek·dom \'gek-d?m\ noun

- geek·i·ness noun

- geeky 'ge-ke\ adjective



13
Nerd
noun

Etymology: perhaps from nerd, a creature in the children's book If I Ran the Zoo (1950) by Dr. Seuss (Theodor Geisel)

Date: 1951

: an unstylish, unattractive, or socially inept person; especially : one slavishly devoted to intellectual or academic pursuits nerds>

- nerd·i·ness \'n?r-de-n?s\ noun

- nerd·ish \'n?r-dish\ adjective

- nerdy \-de\ adjective

 


Neil Strauss' Idea(Process/Strategy)

 

Step

#


Steps Description

 

Neil Strauss-- the Author of The Game.

 

Neil Strauss's Process or Strategy for being a PUA (Pick-up ‘Artist')


The Interpretation of Strauss's

 

Process/Strategy according to the "Glossary of Terminology" in his book: The Game.



1
Select a Target


Target:

The woman in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' desires and is running ‘game' on.



2
Approach and Open


? ? ?

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Approach and Open[up]" to Peer-aged Female of any race/ethnicity.

 

 

A
Do(‘act'/behave) using the Three-second Rule for making eye contact with the woman or women while: smiling, ‘being'/thinking confident, being positive; and "being myself".



B
Greet her; say: "Hi, how are you?"- and wait up to 15 second for her to reciprocate my acknowledgment; try this one more time.

 

If no response on second greeting attempt- SKIP(ignore) HER, "like Trash / ‘S$$t' " .

 

Approach a new female(woman) who is physically away(at different part of venue) from the previous(‘fail attempt'). Redo process from Step ‘A'.



C
‘Make' her feel(experience; convince her perception) a powerful "sense of attraction".



D
Start a rapport- initiate and maintain a ‘light'/ ‘small'-talk conversation by being proactive.



E
Get/allow her to talk about herself- ask her open-ended question about herself.



F
Listen intently, pay attention, do not interrupt-- as she speaks/talks to me.



G
Notice and observe both her body language and verbal language.

 



3
Demonstrate Value


Demonstrate Value or "demonstration of higher value" (DHV):

A routine in which the ‘pickup artist' displays a skill or attribute that raises his worth or appeal in the estimation of a woman or group; it is intended to make him stand out from the other, less interesting men in the club[or scene/venue].



4
Disarm the Obstacles


Obstacles:

The person(s) or people in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' does not desire, but whom he must win over in order to run ‘game' on the woman in the group he does not desire.

 

Origin: Mystery.



5
Isolate the Target


Target:

The woman in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' desires and is ‘running game' on.



6
Create an Emotional Connection


? ? ?

 

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Create an Emotional Connection[listen and ‘read' body language]" with the Peer-aged Female.



7
Extract to a Seduction Location


? ? ?

 

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Extract[go] to a Seduction Location[her place, my place, etc.]" with the Peer-aged Female.



*8
Pump Buying Temperature


Buying Temperature:

"The degree to which a woman is ready to make intimate physical contact with a man."

 

Unlike attraction, a high buying temperature generally appears and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's level of physical interest over a longer period of time, a ‘pickup artist' attempts to pump her buying temperature with fast-paced routines.

 

Origin: Tyler Durden.

 

 

Routine: A story, scripted conversation, demonstration of skill, or other piece of prepared material intended to initiate, maintain, or advance an interaction with a woman or her group.



9
Make a Physical Connection


? ? ?

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Make a Physical Connection[‘read' and respect her-- obtain her consent, trust]" with the Peer-aged Female.



10
Blast Last-Minute Resistance


Last-Minute Resistance(LMR):

An occurrence, often after kissing, in which a woman who desires a man prevents him, through words or actions, from progressing toward more intimate sexual contact, such as removing her bra, putting his hand down her pants[figurative speech], or penetration[physically and/or emotionally].

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

Still a little Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

 

Where in this ‘picture' is:

 

"mutual consensual-ity among/between two or more adult(s)"? ? ?



11
Manage Expectations
Manage Expectations:

To let woman know before sleeping["having sexual intercourse", especially coitus] with her roughly how committed a relationship one[the man] intends to have with her, so that she does not expect too much[for example; long-term monogamous amorous/romantic relationship] or too little[for example; a " ‘one-night stand' without becoming ‘friends with benefits' " / "Wham, bam, thank-you Mam".

 

 

 

End-of-Request: Inquiry

 

 

Submitted: 6 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Theresa replied 6 years ago.

Hi Michael:

You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed.

For now, a question:

Are you asking that one of the social tips provided coincides with the events that you have stated?

Better safe than sorrySmile Thanks Michael,

Terri

Customer: replied 6 years ago.

DATE: Thu 1-10-2008

 

TO: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology

SUBJ: Re-- . . . [Hi Michael: You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed . . .]

Okay . . .Smile

Michael

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

ORIGINAL MESSAGE:

Info Request
January 09 11:42 p.m. (23 hours and 21 minutes later)

FROM: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology;

 

Hi Michael:

You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed.

For now, a question:

Are you asking that one of the social tips provided coincides with the events that you have stated?

Better safe than sorrySmile Thanks Michael,

Terri

 

Customer: replied 6 years ago.

DATE: Fri 1-11-2008

 

TO: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology

ATTN: 'Terri60'

 

SUBJ: Re-- . . . [Hi Michael: You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed . . .]

Okay . . .Smile

Michael

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

ORIGINAL MESSAGE:

Info Request
January 09 11:42 p.m. (23 hours and 21 minutes later)

FROM: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology;

 

Hi Michael:

You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed.

For now, a question:

Are you asking that one of the social tips provided coincides with the events that you have stated?

Better safe than sorrySmile Thanks Michael,

Terri

Customer: replied 6 years ago.
Your Reply
Sent January 11 8:59 p.m. (22 hours and 4 minutes later) Edit Post

DATE: Fri 1-11-2008

 

TO: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology

ATTN: 'Terri60'

 

SUBJ: Re-- . . . [Hi Michael: You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed . . .]

Okay . . .Smile

Michael

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

ORIGINAL MESSAGE:

Info Request
January 09 11:42 p.m. (23 hours and 21 minutes later)

FROM: Theresa L. Romaker, Ph. D. Clinical Psychology;

 

Hi Michael:

You will have them tomorrow evening. This will provide time for corrections if they are needed.

For now, a question:

Are you asking that one of the social tips provided coincides with the events that you have stated?

Better safe than sorrySmile Thanks Michael,

Terri



Edited byCustomeron January 11 2008 at 9:16pm
(Online) -- 3 Accepts/3 Questions
Customer: replied 6 years ago.

Relist: No answer yet. Frown

 

Your Reply
Sent January 15, 2008; 12:53 a.m. (3 days and 3 hours later)

 

May I please have the answer-reply before St. Valentine's Day 2008, Theresa Romaker?

Thank-you.

Customer: replied 6 years ago.

DATE: Tue 1-15-2008

ATTN: 'Terri60' Theresa Romaker

 

 

May I please have the answer/reply to my question this week? ? ?

My "Valentine's Day" 'date' with a peer-age woman depends on the Question-- I asked on: Tuesday, January 8, 2008.

Thank you.

 

 

Sincerely,

 

Michael

 

Expert:  Theresa replied 6 years ago.

Hi Michael:

Am I missing something? I don't see your scenarios posted here. Would you mind editing this post and typing them in. Thanks,

Terri

Customer: replied 6 years ago.
DATE: Tue 1-15-2008

 

 

 

My Scenarios

 

Scenario

#

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scenario

(Description with Site/Venue)

The ANSWER of

 

"When do I and How do I?"

 

As I apply Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips in each Scenario.

1A

I attend, at least twice weekly, a group class ("Level #1: Salsa dancing") at a dance studio.

 

? ? ?

1B

I attend, at least twice monthly, a social dance(whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, or Swing) which is both sponsored by and held at a dance studio.

 

? ? ?

2

I attend a dance nightclub, only once monthly, to social dance--whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, Swing, Hip-hop, R&B, or Disco/Techno.

 

? ? ?

3

I attend a "Speed Dating" event; sponsored by:

http://www.8minutdating.com/, http://www.hurrydate.com/, or http://www.pre-dating.com/.

 

? ? ?

4A

I respond(make initial contact) to a peer-aged woman's Personal Ad/Profile which is posted either on the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 

 

? ? ?

4B

I meet in-person for the first time a Peer-aged woman, who I briefly became acquainted with, from Personal Ad/Profiles on either the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.match.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 

 

? ? ?

5A

If I join volunteering/(non-paying) opportunities to do volunteer work and meet the volunteers, the employed personnel and/or the ‘community' person(s) who receive the volunteered work efforts/proceeds.

 

? ? ?

5B

If I attend church and religious/spiritual either prayers or ‘devotionals'-- etcetera; to meet person(s) especially who are peer-aged, of any race/ethnicity, who attend also do the same. Presume-- Christian/Christianity: whether denominational, orthodox, or both non-denominational and non-orthodox.

 

? ? ?

6

If I att

My Scenarios

 

Scenario

#

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scenario

(Description with Site/Venue)

The ANSWER of

 

"When do I and How do I?"

 

As I apply Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips in each Scenario.

1A

I attend, at least twice weekly, a group class ("Level #1: Salsa dancing") at a dance studio.

 

? ? ?

1B

I attend, at least twice monthly, a social dance(whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, or Swing) which is both sponsored by and held at a dance studio.

 

? ? ?

2

I attend a dance nightclub, only once monthly, to social dance--whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, Swing, Hip-hop, R&B, or Disco/Techno.

 

? ? ?

3

I attend a "Speed Dating" event; sponsored by:

http://www.8minutdating.com/, http://www.hurrydate.com/, or http://www.pre-dating.com/.

 

? ? ?

4A

I respond(make initial contact) to a peer-aged woman's Personal Ad/Profile which is posted either on the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 

 

? ? ?

4B

I meet in-person for the first time a Peer-aged woman, who I briefly became acquainted with, from Personal Ad/Profiles on either the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.match.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 

 

? ? ?

5A

If I join volunteering/(non-paying) opportunities to do volunteer work and meet the volunteers, the employed personnel and/or the ‘community' person(s) who receive the volunteered work efforts/proceeds.

 

? ? ?

5B

If I attend church and religious/spiritual either prayers or ‘devotionals'-- etcetera; to meet person(s) especially who are peer-aged, of any race/ethnicity, who attend also do the same. Presume-- Christian/Christianity: whether denominational, orthodox, or both non-denominational and non-orthodox.

 

? ? ?

6

If I attend:

 

Fitness center(s), sporting event(s), museums, bowling center, coffee/tea café(s), city/metro recreation center(s), theatrical plays, and/or the "grocery store/supermarket".

 

? ? ?

end:

 

Fitness center(s), sporting event(s), museums, bowling center, coffee/tea café(s), city/metro recreation center(s), theatrical plays, and/or the "grocery store/supermarket".

 

? ? ?

Expert:  Theresa replied 6 years ago.

Hi Michael:

You have included many Internet Sites may I ask what this is nin reference to? Are you wanting me to go to each of these?

I have to ask because in the last question that you asked I explained to you that I was going to take the time to help you out even though you almost had 15 questions in your original post.

I was glad that I was able to help you with this. However, this is a very detailed and time consuming project and I may have to opt out and give some one else the opportunity to help you with this as there are many questions to answer here also.

Let me know what you are looking for?

Terri

Customer: replied 6 years ago.
DATE: Wed 1-16-2008

ATTN: 'Terri60' Theresa Romaker

May I please have the answer/reply to my question this week? ? ?

My "Valentine's Day" 'date' with a peer-age woman depends on the Question-- I asked since on: Tuesday, January 8, 2008.

In e a c h of My Scenarios- while I am both: "being 'myself' " and "wherever I go, I join the social event or do the social activity for the pleasure/enjoyment I will gain from the event/activity" . . .

W h a t is both the ‘when-to-do' and the ‘how-to-do' for applying "Theresa Romaker's" and/or "Neil Strauss's" Social Skills/Tips? ? ?

Sincerely,

 

Michael

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

My Scenarios

 

Scenario

#

 

 

 

 

 

 

Scenario

(Description with Site/Venue)

The A N S W E R of

 

"When do I and How do I?"

 

As I apply Theresa Romaker's and/or Neil Strauss's Social Skills/Tips in each Scenario.

1A

I attend, at least twice weekly, a group class ("Level #1: Salsa dancing") at a dance studio.

 

 

1B

I attend, at least twice monthly, a social dance(whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, or Swing) which is both sponsored by and held at a dance studio.

 

2

I attend a dance nightclub, only once monthly, to social dance--whether: Salsa, Country/Two-Step, Swing, Hip-hop, R&B, or Disco/Techno.

 

 

3

I attend a "Speed Dating" event; sponsored by:

http://www.8minutdating.com/, http://www.hurrydate.com/, or http://www.pre-dating.com/.

 

4A

I respond(make initial contact) to a peer-aged woman's Personal Ad/Profile which is posted either on the telephone ‘chat-line' personals or on the Internet (for example: Yahoo! ® Personals, http://www.plentyoffish.com/, http://www.meetup.com/, http://www.myspace.com/;

 

http://www.dancepartner.com/, http://www.true.com/, http://www.passion.com/, http://www.swingtowns.com/, http://www.fling.com/, http://www.dateawife.com/, http://www.questchat.com/, . . . etc.)

 

 

-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Theresa L. Romaker's Idea (Process/Strategy)

Listed on: http://www.justanswer.com/

 

##

 

 

 

The Social Skill/Tip

The Explanation behind the Social Skill/Tip

 

1

You have to be yourself.

 

 

None.

2

Wherever you go, do it for the pleasure you will gain from the activity, not to meet a potential "date".

 

When you do this you are at ease. Talking to others in this situation is no different than talking to a new co-worker. Their is no relationship between the two of you for you don't yet know each other; and therefore, you have nothing to lose: physically, financially or emotionally.

 

3

If you see someone that you find attractive, approach them and introduce yourself.

If they are interested in engaging with you they will let you know this in one of two ways:

 

A)

They will either begin speaking with you or;

 

B)

They will introduce them self to you (Keep in mind that they maybe shy) and if they are shy they may stand their waiting for you to continue the conversation. In this situation, remaining close to allow you the opportunity to continue the conversation will indicate that they are interested. If they aren't they will introduce themselves and leave the area (politely if they are respectful).

 

4

If they engage into a full conversation with you focus on their interests, what they do, and things of this nature.

 

Light conversation such as this will let you now if you want to get to know this person more. Getting to know an attractive person frequently sends people running in the other direction because as the old saying goes: "You can't judge a book by it's cover."

 

 

 

Terms defined in the "Glossary of Terms" in Neil Strauss's book, The Game.

 

##

 

 

Term

Definition

Term's Origin

1

Three-second Rule

A guideline stating that a woman should be approached within three seconds of first seeing her. It is intended t prevent the man from thinking about the approach too much and getting nervous, as well as to keep him[the man] from creeping the woman out by staring at her for too long.

 

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

2

Model

To observe and imitate the behavior of another person, typically someone who possesses a trait or skill one wishes to acquire.

Origin:

 

Richard Bandler and John Grinder.

 

3

Time Constraint

To tell a woman or a group of people that it is necessary to leave them soon. The purpose of a time constraint is to lessen a woman's anxiety that a man she has just met will hang around her all night, or that she is expected to have sex with a man upon entering his house.

 

Origin:

 

'Style'.

4

Group Theory

The idea[or action/attempt] that women are usually accompanied by friends, and to meet her a man must simultaneously win the approval of her friends while actively demonstrating a lack of interest in her.

 

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

5

Fluff

To make mundane[‘boring'] small talk, typically between two people who have just met; common subjects include where one lives, what one does for work[‘a living'], and general interests and hobbies.

 

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

6

Sub-Communication

An impression, message, or effect created by a person's mannerisms, dress, or general presence; an indirect, nonverbal form of communication generally perceived better by women than men.

 

Origin:

 

Tyler Durden.

 

7

Hired Guns

Female employees[women] in the service industry who are generally recruited/[hired employees] for their attractiveness[personality, maybe fame, and especially physical/aesthetical appearance(‘sexual appeal')], such as: bartenders, waitresses, [Telephone, Internet/Online ‘Dating' websites], shot girls, and strippers.

 

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

8

Male Pattern Blindness (MPB)

Some men's inability to recognize that a woman is attracted to and interested in him until after she[the woman] leaves and it is too late to act[the man] upon it[this situation].

 

Origin:

 

'Vincent'.

9

Blur

An occurrence in which a woman stops returning calls, although she was initially interested in the man phoning.

 

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

10

Non-‘versation'

A conversation in which one person is not paying attention to what the other person is saying, generally due to lack of interest [and/]or being distracted.

 

Origin:

 

'Style'.

11

Hook Point

The moment in a ‘pickup'[meeting/mingling action] when a woman (or a group) decides that she enjoys the company of a man who has recently approached her and does not want him to leave.

 

Origin:

 

'Style'.

12

Number-close

To obtain a correct[in-service] phone number from a woman.

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

 

13

Indicator of Interest (IOI)

A sign a woman gives a man that indirectly reveals she is attracted to or interested in him. These clues[from the woman], generally unintentional and subtle, include leaning toward a man when he speaks, asking[the woman and/or the man] to keep a conversation going, or squeezing his hand when he takes her hand in his.

 

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

 

14

Statement of intent or show of interest (SOI)

 

A direct comment intended to let a woman know that one[usually the man] is attracted to or impressed with her.

Origin:

 

'Rio'.

15

Elicit Values

To draw out, through conversation, what is important to a person, usually with the intention of reaching a deep inner desire that motivates them.

Origin:

 

Richard Bandler and John Grinder.

 

16

Triangular Gazing

A technique[usually by a man] used directly before attempting to kiss a woman, in which, while making eye contact, a man takes several short, suggestive glances at her lips.

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

17

F.M.A.C. (find, meet, attract, close)

A rudimentary, sequential model of ‘pickup'.

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

 

18

Flake

An occurrence in which a woman cancels or does not show up to a planned meeting[ a ‘date'].

 

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

19

Trance Words

The words a person emphasizes or repeats when speaking, indicating that they have a special meaning to the speaker. Once a ‘pickup artist' knows a woman's trance words, he may use those words in conversation to make her feel a sense of understanding and connection with him.

 

Origin:

 

Richard Bandler and John Grinder.

 

20

Instant Date

The act of taking a woman one[the man] has just met from one venue to another in the same day, typically from a bustling environment to one more conducive to getting to know each other, such as from a bar to a diner or from the street to a café.

 

Origin:

 

'Mystery'.

 

21

Pivot

 

 

22

Pawn

 

 

23

Wing

 

 

24

"Let's just be friends"(LJBF)

A statement a woman makes to a man to indicate that she is not sexually or romantically interested[desire] in him. One[a man or a woman] can hear an LJBF speech or get LJBF'ed.

 

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

25

Way-below average frustrated chump (WBAFC)

A man who is extremely unsuccessful with woman[never ‘dated', never had a ‘girlfriend', never even had a platonic female friend as a "social dance partner" to go social dancing with at a dance club], usually due to awkwardness, nervousness, and [especially] lack of experience[because the female(s) that this man encounter is/are: fickle, arrogant, or "not sure of herself"].

 

? ? ?

 

UNKNOWN

26

Average Frustrated Chump (AFC)

A stereotypical nice guy[man] who has no ‘pickup' skills or understanding of what[how-to, and when in different venues] attracts a woman; a man who tends to engage in supplicative and wimpy patterns of behavior around women he has not yet slept[been] with.

 

Origin:

 

Ross Jeffries.

 

 

 

 

Other Terms defined

 

##

 

 

Term

Definition

 

Source(s)

http://www.Merriam-Webster.com/dictionary

http://en.wikipedia.org/

 

 

1

Rapport

1: relation; especially : relation marked by harmony, conformity, accord, or affinity

 

2

Proactive

1[1pro-] : relating to, caused by, or being interference between previous learning and the recall or performance of later learning <proactive inhibition

of memory>

2[2pro- + reactive] : acting in anticipation of future problems, needs, or changes- pro·ac·tive·ly adverb

 

3

Confidence

1 a: a feeling or consciousness of one's powers or of reliance on one's circumstances confidence in her ability to succeed>

with brash confidence>

b: faith or belief that one will act in a right, proper, or effective way confidence in a leader>

2: the quality or state of being certain : certitude confidence of success>

 

4A

Self-esteem

1 : a confidence and satisfaction in oneself : self-respect

2 : self-conceit

 

4B

"Be/being Yourself"

 

 

Definition entry does not exits! ! !

5

Emotion

1: aobsolete : disturbance b: excitement

2: a: the affective aspect of consciousness : feeling

b: a state of feeling

c: a conscious mental reaction (as anger or fear) subjectively

experienced as strong feeling usually directed toward a

specific object and typically accompanied by physiological

and behavioral changes in the body.

 

 

Emotion

(Definition from: Wikipedia.org)

 

 

Emotions

 

Acceptance
Affection
Aggression
Ambivalence
Anger
Apathy
Anxiety
Compassion
Depression
Disgust
Doubt

Ecstasy
Empathy
Envy
Embarrassment
Euphoria
Fear
Forgiveness
Frustration
Guilt
Gratitude
Grief

Happiness
Hatred
Hope
Horror
Hostility
Homesickness
Hysteria
Loneliness
Love
Paranoia
Pity

Pleasure
Pride
Rage
Regret
Remorse
Sadness
Shame
Sexiness
Suffering
Surprise
Sympathy

 

vde

 

6

Chump

Pronunciation:

\'ch?mp\

Function:

noun

Etymology:

perhaps blend of chunk and lump

Date:

1876

: fool dupe

 

7

‘Pickup Artist'

(Definition from: Wikipedia.org)

 

 

A pickup artist, commonly abbreviated PUA,[1] is a term used to describe a man who is skilled in meeting, attracting, and seducing women. The use of "pickup" in this context, slang for making a casual acquaintance with a stranger in anticipation of sexual relations,[2] dates from at least 1970 and the book How to Pick Up Girls by Eric Weber, and Pick-Up Times, a short-lived 1970s magazine, culminating in the 1987 semi-autobiographical film, The Pick-up Artist, written and directed by James Toback.[3] The term is also associated with the seduction community, a male subculture based on the goal of improved sexual and romantic abilities with women using self-help, an understanding of social psychology and techniques derived from Neuro-linguistic programming. The term received increased attention in 2005 upon the arrival of Neil Strauss' bestselling book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, also in 2007, from the reality television series, The Pick-up Artist, shown on VH1, starring Mystery, a well-known pickup artist.

 

8A

Player

Function:

noun

Date:

14th century

: one that plays: as a: a person who plays a game b: musician c: actor d: a device that reproduces recorded material (as video images or music) from a usually specified medium player> e: one actively involved especially in a competitive field or process : participant player in politics>

 

8B

Player'

Slang, origin unknown- a ‘pickup artist'.

 

9A

Game

1 a (1): activity engaged in for diversion or amusement : play (2): the equipment for a game b: often derisive or mocking jesting : fun sport game of a nervous player>

 

2 a: a procedure or strategy for gaining an end : tactic b: an illegal or shady scheme or maneuver : racket

 

3 a (1): a physical or mental competition conducted according to rules with the participants in direct opposition to each other (2): a division of a larger contest (3): the number of points necessary to win (4): points scored in certain card games (as in all fours) by a player whose cards count up the highest (5): the manner of playing in a contest (6): the set of rules governing a game (7): a particular aspect or phase of play in a game or sport game> bplural : organized athletics c (1): a field of gainful activity : line game> (2): any activity undertaken or regarded as a contest involving rivalry, strategy, or struggle game> game of politics>; also : the course or period of such an activity game> (3): area of expertise : specialty 3 game>

 

4 a (1): animals under pursuit or taken in hunting; especially : wild animals hunted for sport or food (2): the flesh of game animals barchaic : pluck c: a target or object especially of ridicule or attack -often used in the phrase fair game

synonyms see fun

 

9B

Game'

The " ‘dating' game " or the competition[just like employment seeking and being hired for employment] in the " ‘dating' game".

 

10

Sex Appeal

Main Entry:

sex appeal

Function:

noun

Date:

1912

1 : personal appeal or physical attractiveness especially for members of the opposite sex 2 : stimulating attractiveness

 

11

Metro-sexual

: a usually urban heterosexual male given to enhancing his personal appearance by fastidious(meticulous) grooming, beauty treatments, and fashionable clothes - metrosexual adjective

 

12

Geek

Etymology: probably from English dialect geek, geck fool, from Low German geck, from Middle Low German

Date: 1914

 

1 : a carnival performer often billed as a wild man whose act usually includes biting the head off a live chicken or snake

2 : a person often of an intellectual bent who is disliked

3 : an enthusiast or expert especially in a technological field or activity geek>

- geek·dom \'gek-d?m\ noun

- geek·i·ness noun

- geeky 'ge-ke\ adjective

 

13

Nerd

noun

Etymology: perhaps from nerd, a creature in the children's book If I Ran the Zoo (1950) by Dr. Seuss (Theodor Geisel)

Date: 1951

: an unstylish, unattractive, or socially inept person; especially : one slavishly devoted to intellectual or academic pursuits nerds>

- nerd·i·ness \'n?r-de-n?s\ noun

- nerd·ish \'n?r-dish\ adjective

- nerdy \-de\ adjective

 

 

Neil Strauss' Idea (Process/Strategy)

 

 

Step

#

 

Steps Description

 

Neil Strauss-- the Author of The Game.

 

Neil Strauss's Process or Strategy for being a PUA (Pick-up ‘Artist')

 

The Interpretation of Strauss's

 

Process/Strategy according to the "Glossary of Terminology" in his book: The Game.

 

1

Select a Target

 

Target:

The woman in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' desires and is running ‘game' on.

 

2

Approach and Open

 

? ? ?

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Approach and Open[up]" to Peer-aged Female of any race/ethnicity.

 

 

A

Do(‘act'/behave) using the Three-second Rule for making eye contact with the woman or women while: smiling, ‘being'/thinking confident, being positive/optimistic; and "being myself".

 

B

Greet her; say: "Hi, how are you?"- and wait up to 15 second for her to reciprocate my acknowledgment; try this one more time.

 

If no response on second greeting attempt- s k i p(ignore) her, "like the plague; ‘Trash'/ ‘S$$t' " .

 

Approach a new female(woman) who is physically away(at different part of venue) from the previous(‘fail attempt'). Redo process from Step ‘A'.

 

C

‘Make' her feel(experience; convince her perception) a powerful "sense of attraction".

 

D

Start a rapport- initiate and maintain a ‘light'/ ‘small'-talk conversation by being proactive.

 

E

Get/allow her to talk about herself- ask her open-ended question about herself.

 

F

Listen intently, pay attention, do not interrupt-- as she speaks/talks to me.

 

G

Notice and observe both her body language and verbal language.

 

 

3

Demonstrate Value

 

Demonstrate Value or "demonstration of higher value" (DHV):

A routine in which the ‘pickup artist' displays a skill or attribute that raises his worth or appeal in the estimation of a woman or group; it is intended to make him stand out from the other, less interesting men in the club[or scene/venue].

 

4

Disarm the Obstacles

 

Obstacles:

The person(s) or people in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' does not desire, but whom he must win over in order to run ‘game' on the woman in the group he does not desire.

 

Origin: Mystery.

 

5

Isolate the Target

 

Target:

The woman in a group whom the ‘pickup artist' desires and is ‘running game' on.

 

6

Create an Emotional Connection

 

? ? ?

 

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Create an Emotional Connection[listen and ‘read' body language]" with the Peer-aged Female.

 

7

Extract to a Seduction Location

 

? ? ?

 

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Extract[go] to a Seduction Location[her place, my place, etc.]" with the Peer-aged Female.

 

*8

Pump Buying Temperature

 

Buying Temperature:

"The degree to which a woman is ready to make intimate physical contact with a man."

 

Unlike attraction, a high buying temperature generally appears and fades quickly. To maintain a woman's level of physical interest over a longer period of time, a ‘pickup artist' attempts to pump her buying temperature with fast-paced routines.

 

Origin: Tyler Durden.

 

 

Routine: A story, scripted conversation, demonstration of skill, or other piece of prepared material intended to initiate, maintain, or advance an interaction with a woman or her group.

 

9

Make a Physical Connection

 

? ? ?

Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

What else besides:

 

I "Make a Physical Connection[‘read' and respect her-- obtain her consent, trust]" with the Peer-aged Female.

 

10

Blast Last-Minute Resistance

 

Last-Minute Resistance(LMR):

An occurrence, often after kissing, in which a woman who desires a man prevents him, through words or actions, from progressing toward more intimate sexual contact, such as removing her bra, putting his hand down her pants[figurative speech], or penetration[physically and/or emotionally].

 

- - - - - - - - - - - - -

 

 

Still a little Vague Action/Concept to me!

 

 

Where in this ‘picture' is:

 

"mutual consensual-ity among/between two or more adult(s)"? ? ?

 

11

Manage Expectations

Manage Expectations:

To let woman know before sleeping["having sexual intercourse", especially coitus] with her roughly how committed a relationship one[the man] intends to have with her, so that she does not expect too much[for example; long-term monogamous amorous/romantic relationship] or too little[for example; a " ‘one-night stand' without becoming ‘friends with benefits' " / "Wham, bam, thank-you Mam".

 

 

.

 

Expert:  Theresa replied 6 years ago.

Hi Michael,

I believe that it is in your best interest that I opt out of this question.

Thank You,

Terri

Customer: replied 6 years ago.

DATE: Wed 1-16-2008

What would be a 'fair price' for me to offer, i f Theresa Romaker accepts both the offer and to answer my question? ? ?

Thanks.


Sincerely yours,

Michael


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I believe that it is in your best interest that I opt out of this question.

Thank You,

Terri

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Customer: replied 6 years ago.
DATE: Thu 1-17-2008

ATTN: 'Terri60' Theresa Romaker Smile

SUBJ: May I please have the answer/reply to my question? ? ?

 

.

My "Valentine's Day" 'date' with a peer-age woman depends on the Question-- I asked since on: Tuesday, January 8, 2008. Cry

.

What would be a 'fair price' for me to offer, i f Theresa Romaker accepts both the offer and to answer my question? ? ?

.

.

In e a c h of My Scenarios- while I am both: "being 'myself' " and "wherever I go, I join the social event or do the social activity for the pleasure/enjoyment I will gain from the event/activity" Smile. . .

W h a t is both the ‘when-to-do' and the ‘how-to-do' for applying "Theresa Romaker's" and/or "Neil Strauss's" Social Skills/Tips? ? ?



Thanks.


Sincerely yours,

Michael


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Customer: replied 6 years ago.

 

 

Expert:  Theresa replied 6 years ago.

Hi Michael,

I have been asked to let you know what I would charge to complete this for you...

I am willing to opt back in for 75.00...While this may sound inflamed it is to cover the time that is involved with the question.

You are fortunate at this...If this were in clinic, I receive 120.00 an hour!

Let me know what you would like for me to do?

More than answering this question, I would like to work with you right here to facilitate your gaining independence...So that you will be able to do these things on your own...

We could actually do this through Chat and you would have the opportunity to set the time limits...I seriously believe that at the present time if you could even get 15 minutes a week, time would show progress.

The chats would be totally private....

Waiting for your response.

Terri

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