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-How long have you been dating each other?
-What are the ages of your children and his son?
-Are you happy with him? How does he treat you when it's just the two of you?
-What if anything does he do to your children to make them not like him?
-Does he remind you of your ex husband also?-Could you explain your situation a little more?Thank you again for trusting us with your problem. Please reply as soon as possible so that we can finish answering your question.
Your boyfriend is right, I'm sure no matter who you date they will not be good enough for you as far as your children are concerned. No matter how many times you tell your children that he is a nice guy they have it in their minds to see bad in him but you have to realize that you have to live for you now and that your children are grown and of age to take care of themselves just try to keep the two separate until they can find common ground. If you allow your children to pick and choose who you care about and love you just might find yourself alone for the rest of your life that is just the way children are, hopefully they come around and see your boyfriend for who he truly is. It's not very often you find someone with the same interests as you and someone who is considerate and kind, so don't lose that and just explain to your children and it's time for you to find what truly makes you happy and that this guy does that for you.
They might even be concerned because you met him online and they know what online relationships can be like because of the horror stories but there have been very successful online relationships that last and are healthy. Just make sure you let your children know that you will always be there for them but it's time also for you to make yourself happy also and that your boyfriend does that for you and he is fun to be with and he likes the same things you do. It will just take time for your children to adjust to the fact that you are no longer willing to be alone to make them happy and that you have to find happiness also. If you have anything to add click reply it is free.
This is why your children have such a problem with you dating this guy or any guy they are so used to you being alone and only taking care of them, this is going to be an adjustment for everyone involved maybe when he reconnects with his son and your children see him interacting with his son this will allow him to see that he is a good person and that they should at least give him a chance to prove himself to them but he won't be able to do that if they don't at least give him a chance and also maybe if your boyfriend sees you making an effort and supporting him in his trying to get reconnect with his son he will in turn try harder with your children to make them see that he is a great person.