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-How long have you been married?
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You have half the battle won by just making sure you will be there for her now that she needs you but doing it 2500 miles apart is not good for any marriage. Patience is going to be your virtue right now. If she says she needs time to think about what she wants and if you push her that may end your marriage. She has had a life altering experience with getting hit by a car, she may think that life is too short and she wants to live life to the fullest, you're going to have to show her that you support her no matter what she wants to do. That is a good idea to take a leave and work on your marriage but only if your wife agrees with you to take that step. If you push you may push her away and you definitely do not want that. Your love for her may but the only thing that get you too through that. She has some legal obligations right now so let her handle that and you stay in Washington and work and then by the time Christmas comes around maybe she will be ready for the two of you to try the living in one place together thing. Ask your wife if it is okay for you to take a leave around Christmas time and see what she says but don't ask right away give her a month or two to work on her litigation back in Ohio. You can still have love and responsibility all at once you just have to work throug h the marriage first. If the men and women serving in Iraq can be away from their wives and husband the two of you can do it and still have a healthy marriage. Love brings people through the toungest of times and I think with the love you have for her it will do the same. I hope things work out for you and if you still need more help from me please do not hestitate jsut click the reply button it is free.
Thank you fro replying to Just Answer Bobby!
Although interracial relationships and marriage is doubly hard in this day in age it is not impossible. I myself was in an interracial marriage and it is hard and still not alot of people accept it but that shouldn't hold anyone back from being with the one they love. Love has no boundaries and that includes color. What you need to ask yourself is "Am I willing to wait for her as long as it may take?" If you are willing to answer that with a yes then that is what you have to do, it seems like she is not ready to make that big of decision and again that may because she came so close death when she got hit by the car. People who go through that have a whole new outlook on life and how important or not important it is. It doesn't sound to me like she wants the marriage to end it just sounds like she want some time for herself. Don't take it to heart things right now for her are a little hectic with the litigation she has going right now and working and then coming to grips with what happened to her. Did you ever hear the saying it is so much easier to help someone else than to help yourself, your wife is the prime example she has a job counseling pregnant mothers but has so many issues in her own life. Just be patient and hope that she comes around and lets you back in. Don't give up so easily things will work themselves out and you will do what is best for the both of you. If you still need my help click reply and I will help as long as you need me to.
Thank you for replying Bobby!
Yes you could help others on our site all you do is apply to be an expert and with your credentials you can help alot of people and in the mean time maybe get your mind off of your relationship problems and it may even help you heal if your wife does decided that the marriage is over. Good Luck to you Bobby and if you ever need someone to talk to me and the other experts are always here when you need us!