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How can you tell if your doctor is flirting or interested?

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I have a very hot doctor. He is very sweet and we appear to discuss others things besides my health. HE is my OB/GYN and we have alot of things incommon. I have caught him looking down my shirt and have seen checking me out. I am not sure if I have just reading to much in or if he may be interested. What are things dr.'s shouldn't do and how can I tell if he is interested.
Submitted: 7 years ago.
Category: Relationship
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 7 years ago.

Hi Red,

Of course drs aren't supposed to look down your shirt, nor look at you as anything other than a patient. It is against their rules for him to become sexually or otherwise involved with you while you are a patient, and for at least up to 6 months after you are no longer a patient (time frames can vary by state). With that being said, they are still human, and they are still men.

As women, we are attracted to doctors, after all they are the healers in our society and have an almost magical presence to us mere mortals (smile). It can be easy to want to be with such a man and have him find you attractive. However, I would tread carefully. If he is in fact coming on to you, you may want to ask yourself what other women he does this with, as it is against his rules if not his better judgment. He knows the effect he has on women and his patients.

You could easily ask him out for coffee if you're trying to see if he's interested, but keep in mind you would need to drop him as your doctor and wait the required amount of time before getting involved with him. If you decide to pursue anything, keep in mind he could lose his license if it's ever found out, and anyone from his secretary, one of your friends or a patient could report him.

Warmly,

Chase

 

Customer: replied 7 years ago.
Reply to Ms Chase's Post: I asked him for a reference letter for school and he agreed and said let him know what needs to be said and he would do it.When I returned to let him know what needed to be in the letter he was with a patient so I left a note for him ar the front with the information on it. It was nothing but thanking him for agreeing to givve me a letter or ref and the info that needed to be in it. Well, at my next appointment he never mentioned so I did. And he said he couldn't do it because other may think something if he does favors for certain patients. But it was not a problem before. Is it because I left it at the front office or what?
Customer: replied 7 years ago.
Reply to Ms Chase's Post: A little more input on how I can tell if he may be interested would be helpful.
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 7 years ago.

Red,

It could be that someone saw it and said something to him about it.

Or it could be that he realized he was showing you favorable attention, whether it was because he liked you or not, he was still doing something that could be frowned upon, or maybe come back to him later.

As I was saying in my earlier posts, doctors have to be so careful of impropriety, anything they do can be taken the wrong way, and they are in a position to be sued or losing their license.

Warmly,

Chase

 

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