I do not wish to make any assumptions about this boy - there's a saying "you can't judge a book by it's cover" - this is true - thus, no one knows for certain what is going on that is making him pick up your daughter at this hour....Perhaps he works odd hours and can't make it at any other time - perhaps he doesn't make enough money at the present time to take your daughter out and buy her fancy things - A person shouldn't be viewed/judged because they lack material things.
I understand only too well that you want the best for your daughter. My father stood by my side every minute, until his passing some months ago, to make sure that I was taken care of properly - he always wanted me to have nothing but the best....and I did... My father always supported me in everything even though there were times he didn't agree with certain things or even certain people I chose to be with, however, I could always turn to him to discuss anything - and I have done the same for my son - and that is what your daughter needs from you and certainly every child needs from their parents. No matter what decisions they make in life. Naturally, it's difficult to let go when they reach the age of majority - but it's only to the point wherein they are taking a stand for self and speaking up...showing independence.
I would make every effort possible to get to know this guy friend of hers, including his parents before passing total judgment on him...besides, not everything is as it appears to be - many situations can seem very negative when one doesn't know the absolute truth - yet when discovered, it can turn out to be truly positive - who would have thought same?
Getting more involved with your daughter's guy friend will lead you to the truth - Perhaps invite your daughter and her friend out to dinner, or to a play, or a museum, any kind of an event - try talking to his parents, get together with them.
However, if you have made every effort...yet, all to no avail, then simply let your daughter know that you are there for her - and be supportive - certainly, as a parent, I can safely assume here that you taught her right from wrong - so do try to have faith and trust that she will make the right decisions in life, especially about this guy friend.
If I can assist you further, please do not hesitate to let me know.
I wish you, your daughter and family the best.
Peace, Love & Happiness,
The Mystic Wave
What do you think is making this guy so attractive to her? If it is ok for me to ask you.
Thank you for sharing more information so that we can assist you. In this case, I would like to add to my post that someone needs to have a good, heart to heart talk with this boy and perhaps let him know that you do not wish for him to lead your daughter on - that he needs to have respect. That you are concerned for your daughter...or share whatever you wish ..in order to get the message across to him loud and clear- and, as mentioned, talk to his parents. Telling your daughter to stay away from him may cause her to rebel - but then again, she is 18 and has rights. Perhaps her sister can introduce her to other boys to take her mind off this guy....or she can spend more time with her, keeping her busy.
I wish I could provide you with a magic answer....but, all I can say is love and support is important and is always remembered.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, your daughter and family.