No, I didn't opt out of the question thread. Quite honestly, I missed the question that was put in the middle of your message. I apologize.
Under the law your rights to possession of the property are not changed by the fact that the decree may not be final yet.
You wrote: I would believe that real property and the ownership of it would have equal rights no matter if I occupied or not
When you "abandoned" the marital residence---be it moving for purposes of separation, or otherwise, and your spouse remained in the home treating it as her primary residence, you lost the legal right of possession, entry and ability to exclude others she might invite in.
This is similar to when a landlord rents a home. The landlord still owns the property but loses the right of possession, entry and exclusion to the tenant. Yes I know there is a difference between separating and renting---but the result is the same as regards ***** ***** of possession.
I am again, sorry that I have to disappoint you. Under the law, while you retail legal ownership, you have lost the right of possession, entry and exclusion.
I wish you well in your future.