I'm Doug, and I'm very sorry to hear of your situation. My goal is to provide you with excellent service today.
While the information should have been available to either yourself or your friend---as each of you were involved with the transactions, the information should have not been provided to anyone else absent a lawful subpoena being served on them for the information.
The release of your personal information constituted an invasion of your privacy and you have a cause of action against the husband of your friend, as well as the utility company and lender for Invasion of Privacy.
Under the law, when you sue for Invasion of privacy, you may seek money damage for any actual harm you can show, as well as for emotional pain and suffering and for punitive damages
You can retain an attorney to sue if you wish, or you can sue in small claims court and easily represent yourself.
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I wish you and yours the best in 2015,