she told me that she had to focus 100% of her time on her children, she has a 13 yr. old daughter that has been getting into a lot of trouble... the girl got envolved with a boy that is 17 and he is nothing but trouble!!! since trying to split them up her daughter has given her nothing but grief.. her daughter uses the example that i am 6 years older than her mom and if she can do it than why can`t she?? i am 47 my girlfriend is 41.. when i say her family i know for sure her big brother stepped in and told her to split up with me ... he feels mary my girlfriend should have no one in her life but her children ... her family knows her weakness is her children she will do anything for her kids. i do not have a problem with the kids coming first!!! the thing is we have been seeing each other almost 6 years i feel they are using guilt tactics on mary ... because now she will not speak to me she will not even talk about or even drive by and look at thisnew house she was so excited about... this is a lady who would call me everyday after work just to ask me how my day was.. or leave me half hour phone messages on my phone for me to listen to on my way home .. she would even stay up every night no matter how tired she was so she could wait and go to bed when i did.. now we don`t even speak her every day is consumed with watching her daughter and what she is going to do next!!! i feel lost without her i still feel she loves me and i sure love her with all of my heart and soul it is killing me that i can`t be there to help her.... but her daughter is using me as a pawn she tells her mom she doesn`t like me or want me around...... i pray there is hope it has been app. 11 weeks since we split up it seems like years ..all i need is some help to figure out how to get her back in my life !!! thanks

ms chase i have done everything that you have talked about in your reply.... have sent he flowers..cards even sent her a diamond necklace .. which she kept for almost three weeks before returning it... her family is putting a lot of pressure on her about staying focused on her children they expect her to be single til the kids graduate... while living together i had taken my dog and cat there to live with us .. after splitting she has kept care of them for me til the house gets done.. she still has my animals.. she called right after thanksgiving and wanted me to get them she said if she had to she would give them away.. so i just told her to do what she had to because i really appreciated her watching them since i had no place for them... i told her to give me a week and i would come and get them that way we would have no ties to each other... well two days before i was supposed to pick them up she left me a message and said the animals were fine don`t worry about getting them til the house was done... she tried to say she didn`t want them in just one room and were not going to get any attention... and a week earlier she was going to give them away.... i don`t figure it out?? the not anwsering the phone when i call and just no contact drives me crazy ... it`s like she is forcing herself to stay away from me ... i feel she still cares but is trying to figure out what she should do!! this house that she helped pick everything out .. there were rooms designed just for her.... it just blows my mind how she can walk away from it..... but i feel any contact at all that i try to make with her pushes her farther away...... i don`t want to lose her but i don`t see anything that i can do that is going to help me... i could be wrong but i feel if she would let her guard down she would realize she still cares very very much... something inside me says we are meant to be together she ha a birthdtae of 12/27/66 i have 5/20/60 i have done some studys and worked on some numerology and according to the charts we are very very compatible ... can you give me any insight on this ......... thanks!!!!