after being taken from me by the cps (at ages 2 and 3) and put in an abusive foster home for a year and a half, it was agreed that my 2 sons would be adopted by the younger son's aunt (on his father's side) in oregon whom they really didn't know. they have been there for a year now, and the aunt has stopped answering when i call so my kids can't talk to me. both of them have birthdays in the next 3 weeks. I sent an e-mail and asked if i could come to their birthday party and the aunt sent me a response informing me that i could not see them or talk to them anymore, claiming that she believes it is in their best intrests. My sons and i have very strong bonds, i breastfed them both and stayed home with them. i did not abuse my kids, i had a drug addiction, that is why the cps took them. I had visitation weekly with them until a year ago, when they moved to oregon. my sons love me very much and i know that they will not forget me. they are 5 & 6 years old now. My question and concern is: Psycologically, wouldn't it damage them more to believe that their mother abandoned them than to see me once a year and have phone & mail contact with me? i do not understand how it could be in their best intrests to be completely cut off from me. i think that is going to damage my children even more. am i wrong?