hi

revealing to someone a sexual preference is not sexual harassment. if you are in a position of authority over her at work and had a relationship with her, she can lie and say it was not consensual or she can say that she felt intimidated because you are her boss/supervisor - if you are not in a supervisory position - then there would be no sexual harassment.

hi

as you state, your relationship with her was consensual and not at work. when she wanted it to cease - you agreed. no pressure. now you are being harassed because of a sexualy preference. the EEOC does not protect homosexuals under a harassment - it only covers under race, religion, age, gender, disabiliy. there would need to be a company policy against it.

hi

it should be in the employee handbook. it would say something to the effec "that discrimination based on sexual orientation is prohibted by policy - the term 'sexual orientation' means homosexuality, bisexuality, or heterosexuality, whether the orientation is real or perceived."

or something like that. there is no law mandating the policy - but if they have one, then they need to deal with your harassment internally.