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Hi I am experiencing one of two things. Either depression or extreme stress. I looked uo tehsymptoms and it woudl appear I am burnt out.Theh past 3 years have ben very hard as I have had a very poorly husband late baby(at 42) and two older children to look after. On top of tahtIhad to run our smallholding and our vey demanding bsuiness. I existed for over 2 years on 1-2 2 hours sleep a night as I was eithehr nursing my husband, prem puppies or my new baby.After 3 long hard and diffiuclt years my husband is better. He is not the same and still battles being a "real husband" no caresses, passion or love as I was used to for so many years. I am his other half who knows is nod or eye expression in a blink. I can read his psyche in a heart beat but he has become a hard stranger.I have battled raising a toddler with near teenage chidlren as well. Everyone needs me and wants every minute of me. Last night I dreamed a dream of death.I am not suicidle but i am very perturbed by it.Can you help

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Category: Mental Health
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Gender: Female
Age: 44yrs

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I had coucilling for a whiel as my husband was difficult after hi accident and I coudnt understand his behaviour. There is no real husband wife relationship anymore.

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Hi there ,

 

Welcome to Just answer !

 

Well, it seems that owing to a stressful and demanding life style due to the circumstances that you have , you have developed depression , and this has taken a toll on your sleeping pattern and your cognition ( thinking process ) , and if not treated right now , this is going to become worse ,and you see , the problem with depression is that it makes you give up on your professional, personal and social life , which you can not afford to have at this tender moment in your life where , your husband and kids need you the most as the sole pillar of your family , and let me just tell you that i am so proud to have come across you , as you are shouldering the responsibility to run your family single handedly with great effort and sincerity , that it just overwhelmes one to see you like this , and i would want you to perform your responsibilty with equal conviction in future as well, so for that reason , kindly follow the treatment regime , that i am mentioning below after discusing it with a psychiatrist or a physician.

 

You see right now , you need to first take care of your depression and after that you can concentrate on your family including your husband's health , as you see only a healthy mind can only operate well functionally , so just consult a psychiatrist and get the below mentioned regime discussed with him and get started on it and in a 2-3 months duration you will completely recover from depression and again will be able to carry out your responsibilities quite well.

 

The regime is as --

 

1 ) a combination of 1 anti depressant and 1 anti anxiety drug ..

 

The anti depressant can be chosen from these options -- paxil cr or effexo xr , any one of these two is to be chosen and given only once a day , as they are long acting drugs , and preferably to be given in the morning.

 

The anti anxiety drug can be chosen from these two options-- klonopin or ativan , and the chosen one to be given at night only dose.

 

2) Psychotherapy , that is counseling in lay terms to be also started by the psychiatrist , and since it is a short duration therapy , once it is complete , it will help the drug regime to help you recover faster .

 

So, kindly discuss this regime with a psychiatrist and get started on it as soon as possible , and i am quite sure this will help you to get back on track to face the grind of life all over again.

 

Now , besides your own condition of depression, which shall be treated as explained above , it seems that your husband has been suffering from PTSD ( post traumatic stress disorder ) , after his accident , and that has made him depressed as well as anxious about his present condition , so he shall be requiring counseling /psychotherapy in the form of Cognitive behavioural therapy ( CBT ).tHIS WILL HELP HIM TO REGAIN HIS CONFIDENCE AND BELIEF IN HIMSELF , WHICH HAVE BEEN SHATTERED due to the accident.

 

I hope this helps..

 

I wish you all the best..

 

Please press the ACCEPT button if you are satisfied with the answer as only then will i be credited for my service.

 

Regards..

 

 

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Expert: Dr. Kaushik
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Answered: 10/26/2009

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