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I recently divorced from a woman after 34 years of mostly non-existent relationship. I am now engaged to a woman who seems to be a good match for me and we enjoy each others company. She was married 3 times prior and has had many sexual affairs and experiences that are very shocking to me. She assures me she retains no part of that "wildness" and that she is in love with me, devoted to me, and knows she will never be unfaithful or want other partners again. We have known each other now for 2.5 years and have lived together almost a year. Her actions back up her words and she seems honest and trustworthy to a fault. She is a very personable, attractive, positive, and outgoing person and gets to know people and make friends easily and quickly. I think those skills have in the past led to her illicit actions in some cases. I love her but am cautious and skeptical. Should I put my fears aside and be happy with her until she gives me reasons not to or continue to be cautious and skeptical

Submitted: 32 days and 16 hours ago.
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Gender: Male
Age: 54

Already Tried:
lots of discussion with my fiance

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Hello,

I do not blame yo for being cautious. However there are no iron clad guarantees. This woman has demonstrated that she hjas matured and moved on from her previous wildness. As we age we become more in touch with the less material and more emotional aspects of our life. Given what you have said, I see every reason to give it a chance as in reality you already have. To just further accommodate your fears you might get involved in a course of family therapy to just give some extra reassurance. I suggest you obtain a referral from the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists at http://www.aamft.org/. Best wishes and good luck!

 

 

 

Sincerely,

Ralph LMHC

 

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