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A child does not get to decide where he wants to live, though a court does have discretion to take into account a child's wishes. Ultimately, what a court will look at in a custody action is to do what it believes is in the best interest of the child. Therefore, they will consider issues such as: the emotional, physical and mental health of the child; the child's relationship to both parents; the parents relationship with one another (and how accomodating a custodial parent will be in foster a relationship between the non-custodial parent and child); each parent's ability to care for and provide for the child, etc. A court is also often reluctant to change the "status quo" without good cause; that is to say, if the child has been living with you, without a showing by the other parent why it would be in the child's best interest to stay with them, a court typically won't change the custody arrangement.
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The fact that your child is having a little trouble in school isn't going to be enough in and of itself for a judge to grant a change of custody. Many children have difficulty with school, it doesn't mean you yourself are an unfit parent. Also, a judge isn't going to look kindly upon one parent speaking negatively about the other in front of the child, like your child's father is doing. Even if the judge allows your son to tell the court which parent he wishes to live with, it is not the deciding factor for the judge -as I said, ultimately, they will look to do what is best for the child based on the circumstances. Changing of custody is extremely difficult once it has been established without good cause, and here I don't think it exists. However, your ex is still entitled to file the motion and be heard. The court may not even want to hear from you son at all, but if he does, often times, the judge will ask questions of the child, so being told ahead of time what he has to say isn't likely to help-because no one knows what the judge is going to ask.