Daughter is 12 (will be 13 in January)

Custody arrangement is once every 3 weeks she flies here to San Diego (an hour and 10 minute flight) and leaves at 5:30 on Sundays getting with her father in plenty of time for school. I am very involved with her schooling even from this distance.

The current situation has been going on for about a year, prior to that it was much more liberal. I have never done anything to hurt our child - and my MS has been since 1991. She wants to see me more, wants to live with me, etc.

I left because of DV. I chose the wrong help (Iawyer) to help me with this so I do not want to go back to the area. Her father is all about ownership. The flying has not caused any emotional behavior issues other than her insistance that no one listens to her. The court, Minor's Counsel, says his experience is that it doesn't work well for the child but does not give any examples of why.

Things are so bad that her father will not let her be dropped off at the house which is normally about 5 minutes from the cheap motel we stay in (with questionable people going in and out) and makes the drop off point at the Krispy Kream donut parking lot - which is just very odd. I have no reason to want to see him, and she would just be going into the house.