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Hi, This is a very difficult time for her now. She probably has a multitude of emotions about her father. When a parent becomes seriously and potentially chronically ill, it reminds us of our own mortality, which can bring up lots of other personal feelings. including strong values about our own life goals. She may have many other things she is trying to handle emotionally, and may simply be too tired to work on something new, such as a new relationship. There may also be family demands on her time as well.
I think it would be good if you just let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk. But it doesn't sound like the best time for her to start a new relationship. It doesn't mean she isn't interested, just the timing may be off a bit.
There really isn't any time frame to dealing with something like this, everyone is different. You will really need to decide for yourself how long you may be willing to wait. It may be a better option to work on friendship rather than a couple relationship at this time. She will feel less pressure and you can still be there and work on this if you want to pursue a more significant relationship at a later time. Hope this helps. Gina

Expert:	Gina P
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Answered:	9/20/2009

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