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She left home at the age of 18 because of a lifetime of abuse and being in and out of foster homes. Her Dad has disowned her and cannot forgive her for leaving even though he was the main reason for her leaving.She has reached out to him with phone calls and sending gifts at christmas but he always tells her "you have burned your bridges, don't call me anymore"He is pretty much an alcoholic and dosen't seem to care. My Girlfriend is the most kindhearted and caring person you could meet and she has always treated me like her hero for giving her a place to live and showing her that someone does really care about her and love her.She is very petite, soft spoken and normaly very friendly to everyone she meets and would never say a harsh word to anyone.She has a sweet personality and a great bedside manner.Her residents at the nursing home love her and are always asking for her. We got along great and I have never given her any reason to act like this toward me. Her Mom is now divorced and drove from TN. when she got out of the Hospital but she thinks her Mom is in a conspiracy with me, is taking my side and will not talk to her.They have had a pretty good relationship in the past and we used to visit her in TN. Her Mom is fairly uneducated and takes the attitude that she knows what she is doing and she is angry toward her for taking off and leaving her here after she drove from TN to pick her up from the Hospital.Her Mom's advise to me is "leave her alone, she will come running back when she runs out of money".I have not shown any anger toward her even though it is hard not to. I realize that the girl I have lived with for 7 years and I know loves me would never treat me this way if she was thinking clearly. She has no other family that she contacts. She has friends at work but they have called me asking "what is wrong with her, she acts like she has been hypnotized and hardly talks" her boss tells me she has always been the quiet type and has not noticed any eratic behavior, but he will keep an eye on her. It is just not like her to hang up phones and slam doors and not even talk to me.I know she needs treatment but I don't know if my continued contact with her is helping or hurting.I have taped notes on her hotel door, sent her e-mails and left her voice mails at the hotel with the tone of " Ilove you very much, I am concerned and worried about you,I just wanted to check and see if you are doing OK, can we talk, I want to help you, let me know if you need anything" When I knock on her hotel door to check on her she does not act afraid or angry. She is just sitting in the dark with no lights or TV on. She acts very emotionless and just says "what do you want? I don't want to talk to you", and slams the door.I have also told her through voice mail that if she would think about the last 7 yrs. and the way I have treated her there is not one instance to make you think I would ever harm you or mistreat you in any way" I have given her phone numbers for a behavioral science dept. just down the road and would she consider just calling them and talk to them and that they may be able to help her sort things out in her mind. I have offered to make the appointment and go with her if she would just let me know.In the last 6-7 weeks I have not had a conversation with her that last more that 4-5 words. I don't know if I should just stop contact for now or continue to reach out to her. I love her very much and I am very worried and want to help her but I don't want to make matters worse.