Hi again, and thanks for your reply, Matt.

I understand what you're saying. Clubs ARE difficult places to communicate, even if you have perfect hearing; it's usually very loud, so try other types of clubs, bars, cafes, where the atmosphere is more mellow, intimate, quiet, perhaps with soft music, not blasting loud music.

If you haven't tried meeting ladies online, that might be a good avenue for you to pursue, because it's a really good way to get to know a person before actually meeting in person. By the time you set up a meeting in person, you'll feel comfortable, knowing things about her, knowing she's single, and you'll have told her things about yourself, too. However, remember, anyone can say anything and be who they 'want' to be on the internet, so you'll have to be sure she's telling you the truth about herself, and also, before meeting in person, it would be good to talk on the phone, if you feel comfortable doing that. When you make up to meet, always do it in a public place, like a cafe or restaurant, not at either of your homes.

Would it be possible to find out where your ideal lady from the past, is, at this time (the football manager's daughter)? If you can track her down, maybe she's not married and you can pick up where you left off. Just an idea...

Earlier you mentioned, it being 'risky' to ask out these ladies you may meet in your everyday life. Why is it risky? The worst that can happen is that you find out they're not single/available. If there are any organizations (religious, activities you like, like dancing, singing, singles around your age, etc.) in your area, check them out and start going to events or meetings and there, you can meet ladies who share your interests.

This is a gradual process and can't be rushed, so take things slowly, find some places where you feel comfortable talking to women, and follow your instincts. Be yourself, be confident, be complimentary, and I'm sure the ladies will find you attractive.

Cher

Cher

Hi again, and thanks very much for your reply.

You're most welcome, and I'm so glad you were able to have Dominique evaluated in person by the vet. There is a condition called iris melanoma, which appears like 'freckles' in the iris (colored part), and this may be what the vet was referring to, i.e. cancer. If the splodge is moving within her eye, it doesn't sound like this condition.

http://www.eyevet.info/iris_melanoma.html

I know it's difficult to administer eye drops to cats, but maybe these instructions will be helpful:

http://www.myvetonline.com/website/layout.jsp?section=eyecare_cat&userId=5810

Yes, trying to do it right after she wakes up, she'll be most relaxed. If one of you can hold her wrapped in a towel, with only her head sticking out, and the other can put in the drops, that should work out well.

Also, here is more information re: conjunctivitis in cats:

http://www.sniksnak.com/cathealth/conjunctivitis.html

I'm glad you ordered the Feliway spray and plug-in, and hopefully, that will help with Dominique's anxiety and her brother's aggressiveness; yes, it should also help with his spraying, but if he's neutered, he might be spraying territorially as he sounds like the 'dominant' cat. Try to prevent him from attacking Dominique so mercilessly. When you see him do this, shake a can of coins or pebbles, out of his sight, to startle him so he stops and also we want him to associate the noise with his actions, not with YOU. This will most likely startle Dominique and your older female, also, which we don't want to do, but if it works and you're consistent with it, hopefully we can modify his behavior so he leave Dominique alone. Clean the areas he's sprayed with an enzymatic product like Nature's Miracle or Zero Odor, to completely remove the odor/stain.

The weight loss is of concern, and some blood work would help identify any underlying medical problems, if they are present, but for the moment, continue to feed her what she likes to eat, as long as it's healthy, and ask the vet if she would benefit from a nutritional supplement which would help her get extra calories. Cat Sure is a good one, usually used in senior cats, but ask your vet about it. I have a feeling you're not located in the USA, but here's info re: this product, and also Nutri-Cal, which is another supplement that adds calories and energy. I'm sure if you're located in the UK, Canada, or another country, you can find something similar, if not this exact product:

http://www.revivalanimal.com/store/p/1426-CatSure.aspx?a=google&gclid=CM_D0ZbP05sCFQIxxgodsXNHjw

It should be available in major pet supply stores as well as online.

I hope all will be well with Dominique and your other kitties.

Cher