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Dear bagpuss 105,

I can assure you that no matter how many people we have around us, we always end up feeling alone and miserable. But we are not miserable just because we dent match the norms always. We will always struggle with life in a way. It seems that all you need is a bit of push. I agree with you.. Going out it is not always a pleasant experience but always an experience.

When it comes to your therapist, I suggest you speak to her about how you feel. Whether you are satisfied or less satisfied with your chat. I also suggest you writing down everything which has happened, feelings you have, things interested you/ annoyed you, positive moments/ negative moments and everything coming up on to your mind every day. Read through everything before you are on your way to her and prepare you self for meeting. Make sure to write down the outcome of the chat.

You have been chatting to her in 4 years and even if you take another 4 years and go to her, she will always sit there and just listen to you. All she can do is to suggest things she thinks you should try. What I am trying to say is that you need action rather than just talking. A combination. Try to change your routines from day to day. Start with smallest thing as having a cup of tea in the park just by yourself or sitting in a library and read a book. Smile when you see children for example. Try to do everything you enjoy. Remember we need more action and less talking. To be honest it seems that you are a typical normal guy who doesn’t want to be alone anymore.

Some good self help and motivation books/ audio:

By Deepak Chapra

Andrew Wyle.

Best of Luck and warm regards

/Lily