Question

I had a son with an ex-girlfriend. I signed the affidavit of paternity the day after he was born. (I live two states away). After this I entered the military. I asked her for the birth certificate in order to get insurance for the child but she would not provide me a copy. Over the next year she sent a few emails with pictures but I was never afforded the chance to visit. There was no child support order however I sent 400 a month to her parents address. I also sent birthday and holiday cards along with extra money so that the child could have a nice holiday. When I tried calling a year later the phone had been disconnected. The child was born in 2004 and the last time I heard from her was 2005. I tried looking her up but there was no phone number. I tried emailing but she did not reply. In Oct. I received a termination of parental rights summons in the mail stating willful abandonment. I contacted a lawyer in the county in which it was filed and talked to him about it. I told him that I would not contest it if the reason was for adoption. He told me he would take care of it. I did not receive a letter with the court date until the day before the hearing. The lawyer also called me and said that he found out that someone was willing to adopt and that he would take care of it. At this point I thought he was representing me stating that I would not contest this for an adoption since the child didn’t even know who I was. He also advised me to stop sending money. He did not call me after the hearing.   The next day I emailed his paralegal and she said my parental rights had been terminated and sent me a copy of the order. The order stated that I had written admitting to the allegations of willful abandonment and that I was asking the court to terminate my rights. I asked her if this was considered voluntary, she said she thought so but would have to check with the attorney. This was in Dec. I never heard back. I called yesterday and asked again and she said that it is considered uncontested. I asked if indeed the child was adopted and she said she didn’t know and since my rights were terminated I didn’t have a right to know. I feel like something went terribly wrong here and I don’t know what to do.