Sorry this has happened to you.
The statute of limitations has not run yet.
Legal aid is not going to handle this.
In bankruptcy, you cannot discharge damages which are caused by "intentional torts". It is an open question whether the bankruptcy judge will consider drunk driving an "intentional tort". My gut reaction is it will not be dischargeable.
You have the right to answer the lawsuit yourself. just make out a paper that says ANSWER and has the case number and the name of the case. Write "I am the defendant herein and I deny all of the allegations contained in the complaint and demand strict proof thereof. I demand a trial by jury on all issues." Sign the answer, put your address and telephone number on it, and mail one copy to the clerk of the court and one copy to the lawyer for the plaintiff. Good luck to you.
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23 Years as attorney, licensed NY and FL. Former US ATTY.