Hello XXXXXXXXXX - Thank you for using Just Answer.
I can understand your dilemma. You do not HAVE to invite anyone to your wedding that you don't want to. This is your wedding and if you don't want them there, then that is the way it is. YOUR wedding is for your family, close friends and relatives, and NOT pot smoking disruptive types of people who could potentially ruin your BIG DAY! If the subject comes up, you just need to remind your father and his wife of their disastrous behavior at their wedding and that is enough said! Just put on the invitation Mr. and Mrs. XXXX XXXXX and inside, your father's name and his wife's name and NO mention of the extended family. Since you don't have a relationship with them, I doubt they would want to attend your wedding and that will solve everything.
If you have any more questions or a reply, feel free to let me know. Good Luck and put this behind you and enjoy your big day without all the headaches! Renee
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