XXXXX:If your grandfather set up trust terms to establish a place for your inheritance to be managed for you (probably until you reach an older age), then there is not much that you will be able to do to overturn that. The courts give great weight to what a person decided to do with their money after they pass away. Also, even if your grandfather said some things in person, if those instructions were not including in the will or trust, they won't have any weight. The last written word is almost always seen as governing how things are handled.
If the Trustee doesn't give you money now as you are requesting, it will still be there to be given to you later. It's not "now or never", but "now or later". Having worked with different trustees, my experience as that they each are trying to balance what's best for you with what their written instructions say. They seldom can be forced into making the decision that you want, but sometimes they can be persuaded if you are able to show why using that money at this time in the manner you desire is in the long-term best interests. For instance, a good argument could be made for spending some money for college tuition now so that you are in a better position to move into a good career field sooner. But little good argument could be made for spending money on a new Honda convertible.
The Trustee is the boss. If they are acting incompetently and that can be shown, a court will remove a trustee, but they will replace them with someone else of the court's choosing. They won't appoint the person who is the beneficiary of the trust as their own trustee.
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Retired JD
Retired attorney, general practice, with an additional background in financial planning,