Hi again, JoAnn.
I was hoping to hear back from you to get some additional information about Stuart and your new, little one, but I also don't want you to wait any longer for an answer.
I'm so sorry that Stuart is being stressed like this, by the new furry addition, who, I'm sure, only wants to play. Older cats typically have no patients for younger ones and their constant, energetic antics. Stuart may also just be a 'one cat to a household' type of cat and has no interest in a new friend and just wants to be left alone and resume his life the way it was before the 'intruder' entered it.
It's very important that new introductions are done in a very gradual and correct way. Some people believe in just putting two cats together and I don't believe in this. Cats are creatures of habit and need to be introduced to new situations gradually. Here are tips and techniques about new introductions, that you will find helpful:
You can still start from square one, if you didn't follow this agenda, when you first got the kitten. I also believe the 'scent transfer' method is very successful: take a slightly dampened cloth or paper towel and pet Stuart, then the kitten, then, vice-versa. Continue to do this frequently during the day, every day, so they are walking around with each others' scents on their coats. In addition, you can take an old t-shirt of yours and pet both of them with that, so they have your comforting, familiar scent on them and they will both smell the same.
Feliway, a calming cat pheromone will be very useful in this situation. Get a diffuser or two and it should help calm the level of their stress, especially Stuart's. Here is more information:
After a while of them being separated, try to offer tasty, but cat-healthy treats while they are both in the same room. Someone will have to hold each cat. Don't force Stuart to stay there if he is too anxious, but try this in a couple of weeks and see how it goes. They should both also love playing with interactive toys (YOU direct the play) like a laser pointer and feather wand/fishing pole toy; however, don't allow them to play with the fishing pole toy alone, as pieces may be bitten off--only use this under YOUR supervision. If you don't already have one, a tall kitty condo or cat tree with different levels, shelves and 'hidey holes' is great and cats feel safe, up high, so maybe instead of going under the bed, Stuart will climb up to the top of the platform on the kitty condo and feel like 'King of the Jungle!' and more in charge.
If Stuart continues to be extremely stressed, that's not good for him, physically or emotionally, so ask your vet for a prescription anti-anxiety medication that might help--just a low dose, as you don't want him to be 'dopey.'
Two over the counter oral remedies you might try (but not together) are Rescue Remedy for Pets and Composure treats. Here is more info:
They also make calming pheromone infused collars for cats that help with stress. These are two examples:
I hope that you find these suggestions helpful and things will start to improve for Stuart and his new pal!
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