replied 1 year ago.
Hi again, Judy and thanks so much for your very helpful reply.
Today is Saturday, 8/16/15 at 12:30PM (Eastern time) and I'm re-sending my answer to you, because I'm not sure if you read it last night. Your reply to my initial questions in the Information Request came out AFTER my answer, early this morning, and that makes me think you may have not received my answer last night. I just wanted to make sure you had all the information and my thoughts on your situation.
(You replied, at first, by opening a 'new' question, so I requested it closed, so you won't be charged for two answers. In the future, if you need to reply to me about this situation, just click the 'Reply to Expert' tab. Of course, for any new, separate future questions, just type "For Cher Only" to start your question and I will answer, asap.)
Bless you for rescuing!!
I'm so glad Cinder is now in the [most likely] largest space she's ever been, and enjoying looking outside. She's so lucky YOU adopted her, having experience with cats and black cats, at that. In answer to your question, you and I know that a cat is a cat and sweet and adorable is what they are, no matter what the color. Black cats got a false, bad reputation, I think first, during the Salem witchcraft trials, when people thought they were the witches' 'familiars' and they're associated with Halloween, etc., so, superstitious people fear them. How FUN that your son has a Halloween birthday and you got him a black kitten many years ago, as a birthday gift! : )
Because poor Cinder was not adopted for so long, she spend many long days in a cage, most likely, and that's why she doesn't know how to jump up on anything, but I'm glad she figured out how to jump up onto the window perch. She would also enjoy a tall kitty condo or cat tree (so would Andi), if you don't already have one.
I completely understand your reasons for wanting to adopt this baby boy kitten as a playmate for Cinder and to teach her to act like a kitten and learn skills she obviously did not learn from a mom or siblings. I think the idea is great; however, although the two 'youngsters' will probably get along well, after the traditional introduction process, this will cause twice the stress for Andi, getting used to two additions to the feline household. If Andi is sweet and mellow, as you mentioned, it might not be too difficult to introduce them.
Keep in mind the difference in sizes; a 2.5 month old kitten is much smaller than Cinder, at 14 months and Andi, at 4 years. Older cats typically don't like the very energetic antics of young kittens, but Andi isn't exactly 'old!'
Since you've had cats before, I'm sure you know the basics of new introductions, but I'm going to give you some great tips and techniques at this site, from Jackson Galaxy:
If Cinder doesn't like to be held for more than 10 minutes or brushed for a long time, either, just go with HER flow and respect her wishes. Many cats don't like to be held at ALL, ever, but I think she's still settling in and also, she's probably never been held for too long, being at the shelter. I'm glad she loves the brushing, which is so important to reduce hairballs and I personally, find it a relaxing and therapeutic experience for both me and my cats. As she starts feeling more confident in her new home and enjoying her 'freedom' from a smaller space and not so much human interaction, her 'allowance' times for being held and brushing might increase, but always go by HER rules and don't overdo. She sounds like a sweetie and so does Andi!
So, I'd go ahead and adopt this little furry boy, introduce him to Cinder gradually, and once they bond, you can introduce them (separately) to Andi.
Please let me know how everything is going and I hope all works out beautifully. I think all your cats are very lucky to have such an AWESOME mom!!
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