It is normal for cats to establish a pack hierarchy where one member is dominant and the others followers BUT Teddy is taking this way beyond alpha.
He is actually bullying the other cats because he craves attention. .....even negative attention will do.
In the wild cats are loners, they do not hang out with other cats. They just warn them off.
This is the way cats act when they have to live together. They have a specific
language they use to communicate with each other. It consists of hissing, growls, swatting and neck grabbing.Usually, the momma kitty teaches the siblings how to get along. Teddy is a bit unknowing at playing nice with others.
You do not need a behaviorist for cats. They are really quite easy to
They do not rationalize, nor are they capable of in depth thought or
Everything they do is basic, logical (to them) and makes perfect sense.
In a cat hierarchy a strong kitty will always try to take over and assume the
head cat position. In addition, that is always subject to
changes if cat one senses weakness in cat two. Cats DO work things out in their
own way and they could care less what humans (or behaviorists) think. They only
respond to the energy of another animal be it feline, canine or human.
Punishment is useless and counterproductive because they simply do not
understand being hurt - they would just try to avoid the hurter in the future
but it would not teach them anything.(except fear). In Teddys case, he has no fear. He just persists in domineering behavior.
Cats do not follow a pack leader the way dogs do but they do sense their
human parents energy and respond accordingly - so if you are nervous, they will
be nervous. If you are stressed, they are stressed as well.
I am sure it is bothering you to have the other two treated this way.They cannot stand up to him so it is up to YOU to put him in his place.just don't allow it!
Get a throw pillow and gently push him back when he goes after the others. SAY NO! .....Get BACK.You can shake a can of coins or clap your hands to distract him.You can make a hissing noise and gently tap him on his head.
You also must tire him out. Schedule 3 20 minute play sessions with a feather wand or laser pointer to tire him out till he pants.
Forget about spraying water and time outs. Cats do not respond to such things.
You are the food person so YOU have the final authority .. what you say goes!
follow - hunt - eat - play - sleep as that is a cats normal schedule.
when he approaches the others calmly give him a treat. To a cat, food is love and they CAN be bribed.
get feliway plug-ins and a feliway collar to calm Teddy down:
Put rescue remedy in the water:
Please let me know how things go. If you have any questions along the way, I will be here for you.