Hello, My name is XXXXX XXXXX I have been a veterinary nurse for 26 years.Thank you for allowing me to assist you today.
Adding a new cat to the household can be difficult for some cats and for others it does not go so easy. There really is no way to know for sure how it is going to go until you try.
What you may want to consider is trying it out for a week or two and seeing how things go. Just tell her that if things do not go well then you will have to give it back for her to rehome.I would also want to have the kitten checked out by a vet , tested for feline leukemia and feline aids and have the vet deem the kitten healthy before bringing it in to your home.
I will give you something that would be helpful if you opt to try.
Some things you can do to help are.
* Get some Feliway plug ins to use around the house especially in rooms where the cats spend the most time. These plug ins release cat calming pheromones and are very helpful in these cases.
* Composure chews can be used a few times daily . With these treats you can safely double the recommend amount for cats who are overly stressed.Click here for theses treats
* For 20 minutes twice daily engage the cats in play trying to get the original kitties involved as well as the new one. Fishing pole toys and laser pointers work great for this .Make sure there are plenty of interactive toys for the little one so it does not bug the resident cats to much.
Here are some toys that work great to keep kittens busy.Click here for a hands free laser
Other toys that work well are the panic mouse and or a remote controlled mouse.Click here for the panic mouse
The fling ama string is great Click here
Click the links below for other toys that will get her moving Link 1Link 2Link 3 Link 4Link 5
Look for toys that are timer controlled so you can set these for when you are not home . The trick is going to be giving a variety so the kitten does not get bored and switch then out every few days never give access to all at the same time.Link 1Link 2
* Put a collar with a bell on the new kitty. This gives the other cats warning that this kitty is coming so they can not be shuck up on.
You will find different opinions on whether to separate them for the first few days. I personally do not recommended this if the kitten is deemed healthy by your vet as I think it takes longer to integrate them. If you want to keep them separate for now that is fine but put a baby gate at the door of the room he is in and try feeding both him and the other cats on opposite sides of the gate . This way they can see and smell each other but not get to each other. Some owners find they have to use two baby gate one above the other to keep the cats from jumping over it
Whether to add another kitty is completely your decision and do not let her sway you and many people find that they regret getting a new pet because someone pushed.
I hope this helps give you some things to think about. Please reply back if you have additional questions or concerns and I will be happy to continue.