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Experience:  20 years of experience in treating children.
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My father's son and I were never married and not together

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My father's son and I were never married and not together but get along for our child (for the most part). I feel as though I do all the grunt work and parenting and he's Mister Fun. The father lives in another state but comes to where we live sporadically for 8 days out of the month. When he's here, my son wants nearly nothing to do with me and becomes easily agitated and defiant. He cries a lot more and seems anxious...maybe nervous about his father leaving again. I want him to love and adore his father, but it does make me sad that he treats me so differently than he does when his father isn't here. How can I make this situation better and how can we create an easier transition for him so that he's not so anxious about his father coming and going?
Submitted: 3 months ago.
Category: Pediatrics
Expert:  Dr. Su S. replied 3 months ago.

Thank you for your question.
I am Dr. Su S. and I will try my best to help you.

How old is he?

Customer: replied 3 months ago.
He will be 2 in September
Customer: replied 3 months ago.
I meant my son's father...oh my goodness:)))
Expert:  Dr. Su S. replied 3 months ago.

Thank you for the input.
Small baby can have separation anxiety.
This is more often around 10-18 months.
Stress and anxiety of separation with his father can be the cause of his symptoms.
It usually passes off by 2 to 2 1/2 years.
So, please try to be patient.
He will soon get adjusted.
I hope this information will be helpful.
If you have any query, please feel free to ask.

Customer: replied 3 months ago.
Is there anything we can do to make it easier for him when his father does leave? We usually try to wait until he puts him to bed. Is this the best way?
Expert:  Dr. Su S. replied 3 months ago.

This is one way.
You can try to make him busy if he is awake.
Tell him story.
You can offer him his favorite food.
You may take him outside to play with other children.
Favorite cartoon or children's program in the TV can be showed.