my son is two years old now and i can not get him in to a routine still, if i try to set anything in place he gets really really upset, he sleeps in bed with me because of lack of room when my i moved back in to my mums and i just cant seen to get him out of his habbit, if i make any major changes he gets really angry and upset, if its a small change he is ok but dosent like it, i dont know if it is just my son being stuborn or if there is anything else to do with it? thanks jasmin
Person's Gender: male
Person's Age: 2
i have tried changing his routene and just putting him in his own bed and leaving him but nothing seems to work
Hello, Difficult to tell at this age whether your son's behavior is normal for his age (most likely) or he has something else going on. Recommend in addition to this that you discuss with his pediatrician who knows him and can see him in person over several visits. It is very typical for toddlers your son's age to dislike change. I would suggest your making any changes very slowly and over time. For example, if it's hard to get him to sleep in his own bed, then sleep next to him in a chair or cot, moving slightly back toward your room over 1-2 weeks. Tell him what is going to happen and get his "inout" in an age-appropriate way. It sounds like he has had some recent new stressors in his life and may be feeling loss of control, so try to let him have choices about things that are safe and appropriate for him to choose. Please post back with further questions when you're online. Be patient - these issues are hard!
hiya, what you are saying does sound correct, he has moved house 3 times in the past year and so is probs confused or stressed, as a single mum its very hard to keep getting up at night with him as i work aswell and i get very tierd myself, he is very clingy to me and wont let me leave the room if he is trying to go to sleep, he feels for me in the night and has to be touching my skin, this has only started in the past few months, is this normal for a child? thanks
It definitely is. Toddlers and even infants sense a lot more about parental mood and anxiety and about changes in their environment than we would think from their young age. Small changes, lots of reassurance, and (easy to say) try to take care of yourself as well.
thanks very much for your help, i will take your advice on board and if nothing changes in a few months i will take him to see his gp. thanks again.
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