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My son has been doing a toddler Soccer class on Saturdays since he turned two. He moved up to the three year old class this year when he turned three in June and this class does scrimmages at the end of their soccer practice. The soccer practice consists of mostly games they plan that include basic skills like dribbling. This season started at the end of September and my son was having fun and participating. There would be the occasional brief crying or outburst during a scrimmage if he didn't get to score or if someone got the ball away from him but most of the kids do the same thing. I'd just reassure him and encourage him to keep trying or sit out if he wanted to. He would bounce back fast and keep playing with his teammates. Over the past three or four Saturdays though he has been running around crying more and more if things weren't going his way and yelling at his teammates. I've been talking to him about "good sportsmanship" (not crying or yelling at his friends) for the past few weeks and today I spoke to him before we went to practice. Usually we go to the mall and ride the kiddie train or merry go round right after practice, but today I told him that if he did not have good sportsmanship (no crying, yelling at his friends) we would just go home right after practice. Today ended up being the worst though. He cried the entire time and yelled at his friends several times. I made him sit out until he calmed down, but when he went back he was still crying and yelling. After practice he wanted to go to the mall like we always do, but I explained to him that he cried and yelled at his friends so we would have to go home. He cried all until he fell asleep. I feel really bad. He is an only child and not used to sharing, but I don't understand why after being fine since September he started to be getting so frustrated that he cant get himself back to some level of control. The soccer coach said she thinks it is because he started out ahead of the kids since he has been playing so long and as they get better this season he has to get used to not having the ball all the time or being able to score a goal whenever he wanted to. I also feel bad because I'm not sure his behavior is something he can control at three and a half. At least the crying part. I know he can't be allowed to yell at or act aggressively toward his friends while playing. Is setting the "good sportsmanship" expectation not reasonable and is having consequences like today not acceptable because of that? Should I continue with talking to him and then following though as I did today or will that make it worse or make him not want to play at all anymore. Any advise would be appreciated.
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