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I believe that I can help.
I certainly understand and appreciate your very difficult situation
Steven knows that something is wrong and it makes you appear to be a bad person if you have a girlfriend and he thinks that you and his mother are going to be back together.
ok.. i appreciate your attention
He has to know the truth and you and his mother need to get together with him to tell him.
Her mother is interfering and making the situation worse by doing this.
It is possible that you could go to a marriage and family therapist together and bring Steven with you? She or he can help you two to explain the situation to him.
That would be one approach.
There are also some children's books that will help him to understand the reality of his situation.
May I give you the names of several useful books?>
sure, i think that will help. as per going togheter for therqapy .. I do not see my ex accepting it. as i had proposed it before we even got separated. hshe might only get to think tha ti am trying to get back to her.. and in reality my interest is my son.
I understand. I was afraid that your wife would not be willing.
Ok. that is a good start, i iwll get to read the books and follow sugerencies. but botXXXXX XXXXXne. we ought to find a way to tel Steven the truth!!! am i right?
If you take a job in Eastern Europe you might make Steven think that you have abandoned him.
Yes, you are very right. You must tell him.
Do you have family in NYC (I assume you live there by our name)?
yes, that is what i tought. that was my main reason no to go anywhere else. i decided and i iwll stay around my son.. i truyuly believe he need me.. i see him happy with me.. i will not intend to get him permanently with me. but i intend to be around his growing up.
That is the absolutely best thing to do.
If you have family or close friends that you know, let them help you to tell Steven the truth.
yes, I have family in NYC. but ewe live kind of far. I do not take him so often to visit my sister and mother, becasue my sister has her own problems, and with my mama is always the language barrier sinsce my mother only talks spanish and my son unerstand russian and english.. but yes i take my son to visit my mother and sister.
ok.. i iwll try the second sugesation with friends..
Be in a family situation when you tell him and make sure they all give Steven lots of love and support. Tell him that he will not lose his mom or dad or any of his family or the friends who are helping you.
I shall keep Steven and all of your family in my prayers.
sure.. i always try that my slef, i usually tell him.. that i love him so much and that when ever he need my help to call me. i gave him a cell phone with my number on it so he can call me whenever he wants. and he does. i also assured him that i will always love him no matter wheree i will be. or whoi he will be with.. i always tell him to count on me..
That is wonderful. I wish you great success and believe that you will always be close with him.
Mr. Elliot.. I thank you for the time spent .. and i will do what i can for now. i might have to get back to oyu.. as things will develop.
Any time. Just ask for Elliott and I will be delighted to help you.
Elliot, MAE, LPCC, NCC, CCMHC